No, I just recognised years after when talking with cousins from talking(we all lived in same kind of area and hung out together , we didn't know we were related until it came out) then one cousin and I were talking and I clicked that they were talking about the person I used to walk by and I worked it out from there. I don't have anything to do with uncles, aunts on my dad's side and really only stay in touch with my 1 cousin. I don't know how old you are but I would say if you're old enough to make your own way, then do that, some people shouldn't be together and it really really fucks children up(I'm certain you're not a child ) if the damage is done, you have to understand that none of it is your fault and people sometimes make each other miserable(sadly). I would also add that I have been with my wife for 26 years or so now and so it is possible to form relationships that work well. Good luck.