Mine did yes, never knew my dad. My mom was a manipulative bitch and I cut her off when I had children with my wife and she started to manipulate them, I recognised the patterns and decided I wasn't going to allow that to happen to them. Was a hard decision but my eldest child is now 24 and hasn't seen her nan since she was about 5, my son really has never had anything to do with her as he was only just born. I will never get an inheritance and I'm fine with that tbh, I would rather have had well balanced children that were happy and didn't suffer her, like my brother and I did (he's also cut her off). It saddens me in some ways but ultimately I understand that they would never have had a good experience with her if it had continued.
Weirdly (I found out years after) where I used to hang around in my teens, I used to walk past a guy a couple of times a week and I eventually found out(after he had died at 49) that the very person I used to walk by was actually my dad, he didn't know me and I didn't know him, very weird.
Weirdly (I found out years after) where I used to hang around in my teens, I used to walk past a guy a couple of times a week and I eventually found out(after he had died at 49) that the very person I used to walk by was actually my dad, he didn't know me and I didn't know him, very weird.
That's kinda crazy. Did you have any thoughts about that guy when you saw him on the street and didn't know he was your dad?
No, I just recognised years after when talking with cousins from talking(we all lived in same kind of area and hung out together , we didn't know we were related until it came out) then one cousin and I were talking and I clicked that they were talking about the person I used to walk by and I worked it out from there. I don't have anything to do with uncles, aunts on my dad's side and really only stay in touch with my 1 cousin.
I don't know how old you are but I would say if you're old enough to make your own way, then do that, some people shouldn't be together and it really really fucks children up(I'm certain you're not a child ) if the damage is done, you have to understand that none of it is your fault and people sometimes make each other miserable(sadly).
I would also add that I have been with my wife for 26 years or so now and so it is possible to form relationships that work well.
Good luck.
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