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We've all made mistakes and wrongful deliberations, some of us have not forgiven ourselves. But is it our place as humans to determine whether or not we are unforgivable, seeing as we were made in God's image? How does one go about forgiving themselves anyway?

In my case specifically, I remained silent about childhood sexual abuse for 14 years, resulting in my younger siblings being privy to different degrees of the same thing. Struggling to convince myself I DON'T deserve the millstone. No pity or apologies please, I just need insight.

We've all made mistakes and wrongful deliberations, some of us have not forgiven ourselves. But is it our place as humans to determine whether or not we are unforgivable, seeing as we were made in God's image? How does one go about forgiving themselves anyway? In my case specifically, I remained silent about childhood sexual abuse for 14 years, resulting in my younger siblings being privy to different degrees of the same thing. Struggling to convince myself I DON'T deserve the millstone. No pity or apologies please, I just need insight.

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If God has forgiven you but you think you know better that's putting yourself above God / idolatry. You are commanded to forgive others which you can't do if you haven't forgiven yourself. Hating yourself is a lie that gets in the way of his plans for you.

Also, Acts 10: 9-16 "Do not call anything impure that God has made clean."

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I think this is where I get stuck a lot as well. Get off thinking I'm not worthy, realizing it isn't my place to determine that, and letting THAT fester along with the rest of my negativity. Not exactly humble.

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That's same lie coming in through a different door, close it.

Every time you start to feel that way stop, repent for thinking you know better than God, thank him for the forgiveness you have been given, then ask him what the truth is. Be still and listen, If you feel anything but love and forgiveness it's not Him.

In this way you will change your longterm outlook / behavior. Also, find a men's group that will lift you up in the right way.

Stay strong.