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We've all made mistakes and wrongful deliberations, some of us have not forgiven ourselves. But is it our place as humans to determine whether or not we are unforgivable, seeing as we were made in God's image? How does one go about forgiving themselves anyway?

In my case specifically, I remained silent about childhood sexual abuse for 14 years, resulting in my younger siblings being privy to different degrees of the same thing. Struggling to convince myself I DON'T deserve the millstone. No pity or apologies please, I just need insight.

We've all made mistakes and wrongful deliberations, some of us have not forgiven ourselves. But is it our place as humans to determine whether or not we are unforgivable, seeing as we were made in God's image? How does one go about forgiving themselves anyway? In my case specifically, I remained silent about childhood sexual abuse for 14 years, resulting in my younger siblings being privy to different degrees of the same thing. Struggling to convince myself I DON'T deserve the millstone. No pity or apologies please, I just need insight.

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[–] • 3 pts

While there are differing schools of thought on the matter, I believe God forgave all at the Cross. The distinction is, do we accept His gift of forgiveness through belief in the deity, perfect life, death on that Cross and resurrection of Jesus Christ?

If so, one can receive the healing and drive to pursue a life without sin that accompanies that forgiveness, both in this life, and the next.

If not, one can only look forward to the occasional paltry pleasures of this life, sorrow, death, final separation from God at the cusp of eternity, and the Lake of Fire built for the Fallen Angels and their master, Lucifer.

In short, it’s God’s place to both judge and forgive you, not your own, so don’t place yourself higher than Him and attempt to overrule His decision. Simply believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, and you shall be saved, not only from the Lake of Fire, but you can even turn over the cares of this life to Him through the work of Christ alone, at Calvary.

[–] • 2 pts

If God has forgiven you but you think you know better that's putting yourself above God / idolatry. You are commanded to forgive others which you can't do if you haven't forgiven yourself. Hating yourself is a lie that gets in the way of his plans for you.

Also, Acts 10: 9-16 "Do not call anything impure that God has made clean."

[–] • 0 pt

I think this is where I get stuck a lot as well. Get off thinking I'm not worthy, realizing it isn't my place to determine that, and letting THAT fester along with the rest of my negativity. Not exactly humble.

[–] • 0 pt

That's same lie coming in through a different door, close it.

Every time you start to feel that way stop, repent for thinking you know better than God, thank him for the forgiveness you have been given, then ask him what the truth is. Be still and listen, If you feel anything but love and forgiveness it's not Him.

In this way you will change your longterm outlook / behavior. Also, find a men's group that will lift you up in the right way.

Stay strong.

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

Take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. I know it's easy to just rattle off scriptures, but that one seems particularly appropriate.

Look at what Paul did before his conversion. How does he talk about himself? What is his relationship with grace?

[–] • 0 pt

I assume he didn't speak highly of himself, I'll have to read about him

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

Uh... why not just read the New Testament? At the very least you could read the book of Galatians and the short passage in 1 Timothy 1:12-17

[–] • 0 pt

Well that sucks. Not sure how I'd deal with that. Probably with me in prison and a pedo in the fucking ground.

If turning the other cheek is your goal, just use the belief system that everything that happens is part of God's plan, everything is just a piece of a puzzle that is a big picture of your life. So, just live your life as you see fit. Fate is predetermined.

That's how I define the christian philosophy.

[–] • 0 pt

I can never forgive a nigger

[–] • -1 pt (edited )

God loves us so much that He has allowed us free choice. Inherently, the gift of freedom means the right to make mistakes. Otherwise it wouldn't be called Liberty in the first place.

In that sense, mistakes are Godly. Its how we learn. That's inalienable.

Can't know cold without hot. Can't know here with no there. We would not know pleasure without the opposite. Being what we call imperfect is perfect.

One good thing is: God is so big you can't miss Her.