Many women are capable of putting up a front of these qualities to people who don't know them well. Edit: [this comment](https://poal.co/s/AskPoal/604341/5277000e-6476-40cf-803d-d07fb9705b88#cmnts) is a good example. @Seymore_potatohead was impressed enough to marry her but still acknowledges she is not really these things behind closed doors. No disparagement intended though, many such cases. Women can put up a very good front.