You ask. That's the point. Why would the father say no?
Do you have a future? Are you hard working, sincere, honest, ambitious, patient, and kind? If not why tf are you worried about someone else when you need to work on yourself.
Do you have a real connection with the woman or is it just a physical longing? Parents can tell.
If the answers to these are yes then the parents would be thrilled.
If they aren't then their opinion doesn't matter
Do you have a future? Are you hard working, sincere, honest, ambitious, patient, and kind? If not why tf are you worried about someone else when you need to work on yourself.
Yes I would say so, in terms of my own self im very hard working and persistent, but have difficult times navigating the current cluterfuck that is clown world. However my intentions are always pure
Do you have a real connection with the woman or is it just a physical longing? Parents can tell.
I would ssay i have a real connection, a lot of times when she gets too physical i actually stop her from going too far, since i want us to be married first before we get too physical.
How long have you been together? How long have you held a job? How long has it been serious enough to consider marriage? The older you get the more patient you get. A father will say no if you jump the gun because he has learned the value of patience.
Then man up, and ask in a respectful way.
We;ve been together around half the year, ive held down jobs for close to a decade now or so, im technically an upper level manager
How old are you two? We can give better advice if we know your situation better.
a lot of times when she gets too physical i actually stop her from going too far, since i want us to be married first before we get too physical.
It isn't your job to preserve her virtue, if she has any. The fact that she is trying to have sex with you suggests that her past isn't perfect. If she has had sex before, then why shouldn't you have sex with her now?
If she isn't a virgin then asking her father doesn't make sense. That ship has sailed.
If she has had sex before, then why shouldn't you have sex with her now?
She wants to wait until marriage, so whilst she is not a virgin, the last time she had sex was close to 20 years ago now
If she isn't a virgin then asking her father doesn't make sense. That ship has sailed.
Hence my confusion honestly, she's well up there in age (in her 30s), as am i (upper 30s) so asking her dad seems ... retarded? But on the other hand, if that's what she wants, then i guess it doesn't matter much.
Part of my theory is that she wants to get married to get rid of her family induced guilt complex over being intimate, thinking being married will make them go away. But she'll find out, that getting married doesn't make those feelings suddenly go away
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