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I have no idea what to ask or how to bring up the subject? Im also getting very mixed signals from my gf on what type of reaction to prepare for, which is making me question if i should instead wait it out until 2023 or maybe even summer

I have no idea what to ask or how to bring up the subject? Im also getting very mixed signals from my gf on what type of reaction to prepare for, which is making me question if i should instead wait it out until 2023 or maybe even summer

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Duel to the death is the time honored way. Hopefully her Mom isn't too tough.

But seriously. It is 100% your thing so own it. Your GF doesn't get an opinion. We've been brainwashed for years to defer to the chick on all matters to do with a wedding because it's her special day and all that crap. Leave the flowers and seating arrangements and all the rest of the BS that chicks love to her. You have only a couple of duties here and asking the father for his daughter's hand and then showing up at the church on time are 2 of them. Putting a baby in her on the wedding night is the other one.

My wife-to-be's father looked over joyed when I asked him. Frankly I think he was glad to be rid of her. I love her to death but she can be a PITA.

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Generally im of the theory if i cant gauge or predict the reaction, its too soon or not advisable to ask something. This comes back from my own parents who would emotionally abuse me to shit and back over even the slightest issue in communication or emotional weakness. Pretty sure i would have a mild internal panic attack if things didnt go 100% exactly as planned