Well what I meant by not caring is I mean if he wants to sleep with that woman, if he has the opportunity he could pull a JFK and I'd be okay with that. He has been without the embrace of a woman for a long time and he's bounded through some made up man religion that's not allowing him moments of joy in the last remaining years of his life. That's what I was saying about that. I don't know if the man is sexually abusing my mother to be honest. she's at that level of dementia where she would probably initiate it but not even really know what she's doing. I'm sure at this point they're probably holding hands when they're walking and maybe even kissing. My dad is not a fighter he's been beat up more times in his life than he has actually won a fight but he sure knows how to scream. So if he does find out that there's any hanky panky going on the staff is going to get an earful. I can't physically be in Florida other than a visit maybe for a week next year. He invited me down for Thanksgiving on Christmas but I declined. He needs to be fully settled there before I want to go down. If my brother went with his family I'd go because then there's more deflective abilities. I'll ask my dad what he feels about putting a webcam in her room. Although I have no idea how we would actually hide it or whatever and then how to get the feed out of that I don't even know how any of that would work. At that point if something does happen what do we do with that do we press charges against the man who doesn't know what he's doing do we press charges against the nursing home because they're inept then where do we put my mother. My father can't afford anywhere else that's the problem. So in a way he's kind of fucked.