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My folks have moved to Florida for the winter. My mother however is in memory care because she has mid-stage to beginning late stage dementia. There's a man in the nursing home who's taking a liking to her and they've been hanging out for the past couple of days and the staff isn't exactly trying to figure out how to have that not happen. My father comes to visit and finds this guy and my mom hanging out and he brings it up to the staff and they're like oh it's harmless. My dad's condo association just had a meeting yesterday and they went around the room and talked about their lives to each other as kind of a meet and greet. And my father keened up to a divorcee from New Jersey. So he went to go bullshit with her after the event and I think she invited him to happy hour on Friday. To me the kicker is obviously they're married, obviously they're lonely. My mother has told me that she wants to be intimate and her husband left and all she was left with was just this caretaker person (my dad). This is when she was back home. This just sounds like a dumpster fire waiting to happen. I want my dad to be happy and my mother deserves that too. at the end of the day my father is going to go home in May and my mom's going to be left in a nursing home by herself till November. My father would probably enjoy the company of this woman however it goes. I'm not saying anything will happen but I also told him that I didn't really care if it did, I'd like to see him happy, but I don't want to see him do something stupid and get played. What do you guys think?

My folks have moved to Florida for the winter. My mother however is in memory care because she has mid-stage to beginning late stage dementia. There's a man in the nursing home who's taking a liking to her and they've been hanging out for the past couple of days and the staff isn't exactly trying to figure out how to have that not happen. My father comes to visit and finds this guy and my mom hanging out and he brings it up to the staff and they're like oh it's harmless. My dad's condo association just had a meeting yesterday and they went around the room and talked about their lives to each other as kind of a meet and greet. And my father keened up to a divorcee from New Jersey. So he went to go bullshit with her after the event and I think she invited him to happy hour on Friday. To me the kicker is obviously they're married, obviously they're lonely. My mother has told me that she wants to be intimate and her husband left and all she was left with was just this caretaker person (my dad). This is when she was back home. This just sounds like a dumpster fire waiting to happen. I want my dad to be happy and my mother deserves that too. at the end of the day my father is going to go home in May and my mom's going to be left in a nursing home by herself till November. My father would probably enjoy the company of this woman however it goes. I'm not saying anything will happen but I also told him that I didn't really care if it did, I'd like to see him happy, but I don't want to see him do something stupid and get played. What do you guys think?

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Dudes she's dementia next Nov she won't remember u

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Yeah she has no idea who I am pretty much already. Like she will recognize the name but she doesn't understand the significance of what that really means. Her memory of me right now is 12 years old she thinks I'm a 12 year old boy. My concern about my father is I don't want to see him get taken by this woman if it all works out. Cuz he's going to try his damnedest to bag the beauty and he's going to just start throwing money at it. That's never a good idea but my father is a mouth breathing golf idiot so you can't expect much. I've told him to watch his money with doing dumb shit and he sort of listens but not really.

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Look up this broad. See if you can dig up something to justify your concerns.

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That's a good idea, I'll try to find her. name I know she's divorced and I know she's from the Northeast and I know she's got a golf membership at an expensive club, like a stupidly expensive club. I wonder if I could do like a quick little reverse lookup and stalk her on Facebook. Be good to do a credit check too right?

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So dad sees wife deteriorate and says time for new model to avoid heartache seems common place today might just want a companion but be proper an atleast wait for wife to pass

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I'm not sure if that's going to be viable or not. There's longevity on my mom's side and not with cognitive ability either. She could live for another 20 years, he's not going to live that long. Maybe he and this lady just keep it platonic but I can't see that being the case. I'm at a loss, I don't know how to guide him with it. He can't abandon her because my brother and I wouldn't allow him to, we would move her somewhere else closer to my brother. To be honest there's a good chunk of that money that he has that's hers as well, due to her father leaving her an inheritance. it's not huge amounts but it's enough for a couple years in a nursing home. after that she would just go on state and live in a facility unfortunately till she died. But in her condition there'd be no judge in his right mind that would grant a divorce so my father would just be pulling a JFK.