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My folks have moved to Florida for the winter. My mother however is in memory care because she has mid-stage to beginning late stage dementia. There's a man in the nursing home who's taking a liking to her and they've been hanging out for the past couple of days and the staff isn't exactly trying to figure out how to have that not happen. My father comes to visit and finds this guy and my mom hanging out and he brings it up to the staff and they're like oh it's harmless. My dad's condo association just had a meeting yesterday and they went around the room and talked about their lives to each other as kind of a meet and greet. And my father keened up to a divorcee from New Jersey. So he went to go bullshit with her after the event and I think she invited him to happy hour on Friday. To me the kicker is obviously they're married, obviously they're lonely. My mother has told me that she wants to be intimate and her husband left and all she was left with was just this caretaker person (my dad). This is when she was back home. This just sounds like a dumpster fire waiting to happen. I want my dad to be happy and my mother deserves that too. at the end of the day my father is going to go home in May and my mom's going to be left in a nursing home by herself till November. My father would probably enjoy the company of this woman however it goes. I'm not saying anything will happen but I also told him that I didn't really care if it did, I'd like to see him happy, but I don't want to see him do something stupid and get played. What do you guys think?

My folks have moved to Florida for the winter. My mother however is in memory care because she has mid-stage to beginning late stage dementia. There's a man in the nursing home who's taking a liking to her and they've been hanging out for the past couple of days and the staff isn't exactly trying to figure out how to have that not happen. My father comes to visit and finds this guy and my mom hanging out and he brings it up to the staff and they're like oh it's harmless. My dad's condo association just had a meeting yesterday and they went around the room and talked about their lives to each other as kind of a meet and greet. And my father keened up to a divorcee from New Jersey. So he went to go bullshit with her after the event and I think she invited him to happy hour on Friday. To me the kicker is obviously they're married, obviously they're lonely. My mother has told me that she wants to be intimate and her husband left and all she was left with was just this caretaker person (my dad). This is when she was back home. This just sounds like a dumpster fire waiting to happen. I want my dad to be happy and my mother deserves that too. at the end of the day my father is going to go home in May and my mom's going to be left in a nursing home by herself till November. My father would probably enjoy the company of this woman however it goes. I'm not saying anything will happen but I also told him that I didn't really care if it did, I'd like to see him happy, but I don't want to see him do something stupid and get played. What do you guys think?

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At this point there's nothing left, it's just waiting for the end. I hear what you're saying though. She's been declining for a long time and needed to be in a nursing home a long time ago. but he just resisted until she had an episode about 3 months ago where he had no choice. They're in Florida, I'm in New Mexico and Arizona, so I'm never going to get down there.

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Shit you damn close to me bruh. Yeah it's costly go FL

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I could have been talking to you today, LOL. Yeah Florida's actually not as cheap as one would think. my fathers eyeballs popped out of his head when he figured out that he's paying more in mortgage and more in insurance than he did back in new england. I don't remember what he said about property tax or car tax, but ain't nothing cheap in our country anymore. You can't really blame people for saying fuck it and heading somewhere cheaper, ie different country.

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Naw I'm in Colorado but not far from az/NM line about 6 hrs I think maybe less