I dont think there is such a thing as an intellectual conversation with a woman, it feels more like being an emotional tampon or listening to verbal vomit live. A lot of times, I also noticed that I can "fix" what a woman says in dozens of words, into something as simple as 3 or 4. Women are NOT better communicators, contrary to the media, they just love to talk talk talk, talk your ear off. And when you try to interject because not all of us can understand 50 years of back story walking into a conversation, you're branded rude for asking irrelevant questions. As if i'm supposed to just know these things ....
Women do not want their problems to be solved, they want their problems to be heard.
See that was my mistake right there, assuming they wanted an actual answer. Really, i should have let her rant and said nothing and i would have come out some kind of mystic saint instead
I've listened to many GFs bitch about problems at work, or problems with friends, and I offered then what I thought was really good, reasonable advice.
They don't want that shit.
They want you to listen, and say
That Rachel girl at work sounds awful. She should be fired. I can't believe she dresses like that. No wonder she's dating that loser, Simon.
It's very true that women don't want things fixed or answers to their questions/problems. It's also true that Men are fixers, problem solvers, and always try to have answers. This is important information that I would have liked to have had when I was very young! REMEMBER THAT, ANY OF YOU THAT ARE RAISING BOYS! I believe that the main thing you should take away from this experience is the fact that she made fun of you! That is a bigger deal breaker to me than any of the rest of it. Your woman should NEVER EVER make fun of you, especially around other people! If I were in your place I would walk for that reason alone. This shows that she has no respect for you. It is possible to gain respect from a woman but it could take Years of your life to do it! If you two had children she would be just as disrespectful to you in front of them, meaning that your children would grow up disrespecting you also! You might, just Might, eventually gain her respect, but you would never gain respect from your children.
Damnit. I needed to hear this at this exact moment. I'm currently going through something similar and this comment really calmed me down. Much appreciated, mate
Hope everything works out well for you and the "girl" you're with.
Because the problem isn't the problem, it's that she needs to process her emotions and she craves validation.
This should be a permanent heading on the front page and it’s universally true
I have given you wisdom.
Now give me a writing prompt.
Actually, they DO eventually want it solved.. but before that happens, they want to bitch/cry about it and be heard..they want to be held, coddled, listened to first and foremost.. if you let them do that and get all the tears or emotion out, then and only then should you bring up ideas to solve it.
You are absolutely right on this one. That's why I begin every convo with my wife with do you want me to fix it or do you want me to listen? Usually stops her from ranting in the first place which is nice.
Women are fucking awful communicators.
I've yet to meet a woman who gave a succinct story.
(post is archived)