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We had a disagreement yesterday and now im wondering if we should break up. She dragged me to one of her friend's place, and this woman talked for a straight hour about herself, her past, her family, really it was more of a monologue where you act more like a viewer. She mentioned the whole Israel are the chosen, etc. So then I tried to drop some knowledge about some historical events, but then they and to an extent my gf both started insulting me about how i was too "book smart" and needed to be more street smart. This was weird to me, because never in my life have i ever been insulted for being too smart before. It then begs the question, how exactly is that a bad thing? They were essentially making fun of me for not knowing how to live on the streets of some dumpster shit hole liberal city, as if that's a bad thing ...

Anyways my gf said last night that i have all the qualities she was looking for, but she doesn't know if she can live with my social awkwardness. Really she wants someone who she never has to worry about or be embarrassed for, and she wants the relationship to never suffer or go through any hiccup of any kind. I ended up just leaving early yesterday, because to an extent this conversation and the one prior hurt pretty bad. Now I just feel really weird and don't really know what to do or how to feel today

We had a disagreement yesterday and now im wondering if we should break up. She dragged me to one of her friend's place, and this woman talked for a straight hour about herself, her past, her family, really it was more of a monologue where you act more like a viewer. She mentioned the whole Israel are the chosen, etc. So then I tried to drop some knowledge about some historical events, but then they and to an extent my gf both started insulting me about how i was too "book smart" and needed to be more street smart. This was weird to me, because never in my life have i ever been insulted for being too smart before. It then begs the question, how exactly is that a bad thing? They were essentially making fun of me for not knowing how to live on the streets of some dumpster shit hole liberal city, as if that's a bad thing ... Anyways my gf said last night that i have all the qualities she was looking for, but she doesn't know if she can live with my social awkwardness. Really she wants someone who she never has to worry about or be embarrassed for, and she wants the relationship to never suffer or go through any hiccup of any kind. I ended up just leaving early yesterday, because to an extent this conversation and the one prior hurt pretty bad. Now I just feel really weird and don't really know what to do or how to feel today

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A lot of bullshit answers in this post, and you are acting like a huge pussy. Huge pussies don't get desirable women.

Understand this: 1) you don't have "social anxiety". You are acting weak and display a lack of confidence. 2) realize with 1 that you are acting like a massive cunt and letting your "feelings" make your decisions for you

Then do this: 1) ghost her for 3-4 days - don't respond to texts or answer calls - make yourself scarce - hit the gym, go on a dating app and have a date with someone else - distract yourself 2) after 3-4 days, if she hasn't called or texted, walk. No need to reengage. 3) If she has been pestering you, go ahead and communicate that you lost a lot of respect for her the way she ran her mouth in front of her friend, and that you aren't "socially ackward" - you just think her friend is an obnoxious, self-absorbed narcissist and you do not like her. 4) she how she responds, - if she apologizes, you ghost her for another 3-4 days. Go out on another date. She earned it. Only reengage on your terms, and start a step or two back from where you were. She needs to be punished. If she doesn't apologize and tries to argue or get into some kind of discussion about emotions, do NOT engage in a long conversation - just say "yeah I'm not doing this" and ghost her for 3-4 days anyway.

You need to change the power dynamic in this relationship so you are the alpha and she appreciates you. That means her friend (who is likely the problem) needs to go and her behavior needs a 180. If you can't achieve that, you walk, improve yourself, and find one of the other millions of eligible women out there. It's simple.