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We had a disagreement yesterday and now im wondering if we should break up. She dragged me to one of her friend's place, and this woman talked for a straight hour about herself, her past, her family, really it was more of a monologue where you act more like a viewer. She mentioned the whole Israel are the chosen, etc. So then I tried to drop some knowledge about some historical events, but then they and to an extent my gf both started insulting me about how i was too "book smart" and needed to be more street smart. This was weird to me, because never in my life have i ever been insulted for being too smart before. It then begs the question, how exactly is that a bad thing? They were essentially making fun of me for not knowing how to live on the streets of some dumpster shit hole liberal city, as if that's a bad thing ...

Anyways my gf said last night that i have all the qualities she was looking for, but she doesn't know if she can live with my social awkwardness. Really she wants someone who she never has to worry about or be embarrassed for, and she wants the relationship to never suffer or go through any hiccup of any kind. I ended up just leaving early yesterday, because to an extent this conversation and the one prior hurt pretty bad. Now I just feel really weird and don't really know what to do or how to feel today

We had a disagreement yesterday and now im wondering if we should break up. She dragged me to one of her friend's place, and this woman talked for a straight hour about herself, her past, her family, really it was more of a monologue where you act more like a viewer. She mentioned the whole Israel are the chosen, etc. So then I tried to drop some knowledge about some historical events, but then they and to an extent my gf both started insulting me about how i was too "book smart" and needed to be more street smart. This was weird to me, because never in my life have i ever been insulted for being too smart before. It then begs the question, how exactly is that a bad thing? They were essentially making fun of me for not knowing how to live on the streets of some dumpster shit hole liberal city, as if that's a bad thing ... Anyways my gf said last night that i have all the qualities she was looking for, but she doesn't know if she can live with my social awkwardness. Really she wants someone who she never has to worry about or be embarrassed for, and she wants the relationship to never suffer or go through any hiccup of any kind. I ended up just leaving early yesterday, because to an extent this conversation and the one prior hurt pretty bad. Now I just feel really weird and don't really know what to do or how to feel today

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[–] • 19 pts

What I read: Your gf ganged up on you in front of the monologue queen to embarrass you. That's on her. She'll do it again as signaled in the aftermath where gf basically told you that you're HER arm candy to be seen but not heard. Your gf and the host made it socially awkward for you as the guest in treating you with disrespect. You're being told that social media narrative smart is superior to book smart (no examination of facts allowed).

Your questions to yourself are: Can I live with being treated this way and expected to agree and keep quiet even when I disagree, just to keep the peace? Can I live in that box for the rest of my life? When can I assert my opinion and what I want, and why am I even asking that question?

Good luck.

[–] • 2 pts

When you start talking about the future the whole thing gets 1000 times worse after the children come along! Goes to a whole new dimension when she is disrespecting him in front of their children!