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My brother will not let dad stay with him at the his house. he says their lives are too complicated and they have to do all this stuff and it would just make for an awful time trying to entertain our father. i don't understand this rationale and i gave my brother a bunch of shit for it saying hes your dad why can't he stay in the house? let him do whatever he wants within reason. i don't understand why this is even a thing. if he wants to sit and watch tv, let him watch tv. wants to read a book let him read a book. if he wants to play with the kids let him play with the kids. hes family not some rando. my brother got pissed off at me and then said hey pal when you have your own house then you could have him stay all you want until then you can't busybody in a situation you dont know anything about. but i do know thats the thing. dad can be a little authoritarian at times but thats easy enough to shut down. how hard is it to tell dad to turn off fox news and head phone dick morris, its not. see my mom went to a nursing home last week and dads all fucked up over it and in my opinion casting him out on the street is just niggardly imo. where's the compassion..... what say you blokes?

My brother will not let dad stay with him at the his house. he says their lives are too complicated and they have to do all this stuff and it would just make for an awful time trying to entertain our father. i don't understand this rationale and i gave my brother a bunch of shit for it saying hes your dad why can't he stay in the house? let him do whatever he wants within reason. i don't understand why this is even a thing. if he wants to sit and watch tv, let him watch tv. wants to read a book let him read a book. if he wants to play with the kids let him play with the kids. hes family not some rando. my brother got pissed off at me and then said hey pal when you have your own house then you could have him stay all you want until then you can't busybody in a situation you dont know anything about. but i do know thats the thing. dad can be a little authoritarian at times but thats easy enough to shut down. how hard is it to tell dad to turn off fox news and head phone dick morris, its not. see my mom went to a nursing home last week and dads all fucked up over it and in my opinion casting him out on the street is just niggardly imo. where's the compassion..... what say you blokes?

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Sure there is and you're right. I guess i should just be an observer and keep my thoughts to myself about their relationship.

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That's how I have been keeping myself sane for all these years.

I just let both sides talk to me and vent about their conflicts while I keep things neutral between me and them.

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Yeah thats what i did up until this. It just blew my mind how cold my brother was over this. Sure my dad was an ass but its not like he burned cigarettes out on our skin. He did the typical dad beatings and berating that go hand in hand with a Irish catholic upbringing.

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"He did the typical dad beatings and berating"

AKA your dad was an abusive piece of shit. Gee. I wonder why your brother doesn't really want him around.

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Irish catholic.

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You know, without that "typical... Irish catholic upbringing" you and your brother might have turned out to be literal faggots getting your buttholes gapped by niggers.
Sometimes the things people hate the most are the very things that make them a stronger person!

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That's because you and your brother are 2 different personalities who experienced those events in your own personal ways, and are now dealing with them in the same manner.

Don't pick sides, let him do his own thing, and maybe talk to him about the past and try to see how it really affected him.