Have you ever tried not being a total faggot?
Have you ever tried not being a total faggot?
I guess he had. But his mother didn't agree to it
I guess he had. But his mother didn't agree to it
It can be disconcerting when you are around people who are well adjusted and have healthy interpersonal relationships when you come from a dysfunctional and abusive family.
You will think it's all an act , that people aren't really like that. It will take time and some work , but you can have healthy relationships.
I would suggest couples counseling , if you can find a decent counselor, but that's easier said than done
It can be disconcerting when you are around people who are well adjusted and have healthy interpersonal relationships when you come from a dysfunctional and abusive family.
You will think it's all an act , that people aren't really like that. It will take time and some work , but you can have healthy relationships.
I would suggest couples counseling , if you can find a decent counselor, but that's easier said than done
I remember when i was dating someone years prior, my mom was upset at me because my mom always assumed i would only be tied to her. She even said that she was the only woman for me, and i didn't need anyone else. It feels more like i escaped prison than a family, and yet no one really understands around me just how bad these people can be. Even my gf is still insisting she wants to go meet them one day, which i am very very reluctant to do. My mom also manipulated one of my dates at one point that she was breaking apart the family, to pressure her to break up with me, so its not like my mom is a soft little deer in the headlights either
I remember when i was dating someone years prior, my mom was upset at me because my mom always assumed i would only be tied to her. She even said that she was the only woman for me, and i didn't need anyone else. It feels more like i escaped prison than a family, and yet no one really understands around me just how bad these people can be. Even my gf is still insisting she wants to go meet them one day, which i am very very reluctant to do. My mom also manipulated one of my dates at one point that she was breaking apart the family, to pressure her to break up with me, so its not like my mom is a soft little deer in the headlights either
Are you just trolling or is this actually a real story? This is the kind of thing that I would read on reddit. Where was your father in all of this?
Are you just trolling or is this actually a real story? This is the kind of thing that I would read on reddit. Where was your father in all of this?
It actually happened a lot of different times for different reasons. My dad was a spineless cuck who had nothing better to do than fuck right off when he had to witness the carnage. Especially when we were young, he would always conveniently have to go on some kind of business tripe or something
It actually happened a lot of different times for different reasons. My dad was a spineless cuck who had nothing better to do than fuck right off when he had to witness the carnage. Especially when we were young, he would always conveniently have to go on some kind of business tripe or something
I wish you luck . Hope you can break the chains of your past
I wish you luck .
Hope you can break the chains of your past
That is key. Accept you come from a screwed up situation, and go the other way. Introspection and self discipline will help. As an aside, stay well away from anyone toxic connected to your past. Put them on " avoid."
That is key. Accept you come from a screwed up situation, and go the other way. Introspection and self discipline will help. As an aside, stay well away from anyone toxic connected to your past. Put them on " avoid."
Kick the bitch to the curb, after giving her something nasty to remember you by. Just because she ruined your early life does not mean you have to indulge her any further. No family is far superior to a fucked up one. Cut the ties that bind.
Kick the bitch to the curb, after giving her something nasty to remember you by. Just because she ruined your early life does not mean you have to indulge her any further. No family is far superior to a fucked up one. Cut the ties that bind.
I would suggest couples counseling , if you can find a decent counselor
That's a big "if".
> I would suggest couples counseling , if you can find a decent counselor
That's a big "if".
Why are my gf's family so nice to me?
That's what normal and sane people do.
> Why are my gf's family so nice to me?
That's what normal and sane people do.
Sounds like you were raised by a parent with a clear case of NPD.
Children raised with narcissist parents struggle to understand how to love others because they never saw a good example of a parent sacrificing themselves for the love of their children when they were younger. To the child raised with a narcissitic parent the world becomes a place for selfish focus and they tend to reject the idea of sacrificing for, and loving others. They give up tying to really find love and instead live a life focused on aquiring substitutions for love.
Almost all leftists are narcissitic.
The ones that are not narcissitic have actually passed right through narcissism and wound up in the world of psycopathy, which is beyond narcissism. These are the leaders of the political left.
Psycopaths have a clear understanding of their inner lack of love. They see those who are able to recognize and desire love as being inferior. Love is a weakness to the psycopath.
The narcissist has not yet acknowledge that they see love as a weakness. Mostly because the narcissist is an expert on lying to themselves ABOUT themselves. The narcissist tells themselves, and all the world, that they know how love wonderfully.
Sounds like you came from a shitty family. And perhaps your GF's family actually knows how to love. Families like that do still exist. But there are fewer of them every year.
Sounds like you were raised by a parent with a clear case of NPD.
Children raised with narcissist parents struggle to understand how to love others because they never saw a good example of a parent sacrificing themselves for the love of their children when they were younger. To the child raised with a narcissitic parent the world becomes a place for selfish focus and they tend to reject the idea of sacrificing for, and loving others. They give up tying to really find love and instead live a life focused on aquiring substitutions for love.
Almost all leftists are narcissitic.
The ones that are not narcissitic have actually passed right through narcissism and wound up in the world of psycopathy, which is beyond narcissism. These are the leaders of the political left.
Psycopaths have a clear understanding of their inner lack of love. They see those who are able to recognize and desire love as being inferior. Love is a weakness to the psycopath.
The narcissist has not yet acknowledge that they see love as a weakness. Mostly because the narcissist is an expert on lying to themselves ABOUT themselves. The narcissist tells themselves, and all the world, that they know how love wonderfully.
Sounds like you came from a shitty family. And perhaps your GF's family actually knows how to love. Families like that do still exist. But there are fewer of them every year.
This looks like the correct answer indeed, covert narcissism and based on OP's comments maybe a combo of borderline too. Once you know about Cluster B personality disorders things became a lot clearer and you can actually heal and learn to avoid interactions with damaged people. Also consider that many women that have at least 2 children will deliberately fuck up one of them and make him codependent so they have someone to take care of them in their old age.
This looks like the correct answer indeed, covert narcissism and based on OP's comments maybe a combo of borderline too. Once you know about Cluster B personality disorders things became a lot clearer and you can actually heal and learn to avoid interactions with damaged people.
Also consider that many women that have at least 2 children will deliberately fuck up one of them and make him codependent so they have someone to take care of them in their old age.
Can confirm, this is the correct answer.
OP you have a long road of recovery ahead of you no matter what happens with the current hoe
Can confirm, this is the correct answer.
OP you have a long road of recovery ahead of you no matter what happens with the current hoe
was recently created. Looks like you have a lot on your mind, it might be a good place to share it with others and work it out.
/s/GroupTherapy was recently created. Looks like you have a lot on your mind, it might be a good place to share it with others and work it out.
sounds like your mom is a nigger or sociopath.
sounds like your mom is a nigger or sociopath.
Narcissist.
Or, in other words, someone who is only able to focus on self needs and perceives all other humans as simply being natural extensions for obtaining personal desires. To the narcissist people are tools. Only their desires matter. Someone who literally doesn't have the brain connections to feel real love for another, or sacrifice for anyone but themselves.
Blacks are highly narcissistic. This is likely due to no fault of their own, but rather tens of thousands of years of past history on the continent of Africa with it's unique cultures and physical attributes.
This is literally where the foundation for the word "niggardly" was arrived at.
Women are generally narcissistic as well. Though certainly not all.
Jews are little more than a culture built on a foundation of purely justified narcissism.
The political left is pretty much just a bunch of narcissists being manipulated by understanding psycopaths.
We are living an epidemic of narcissism. Which is the same thing as saying an epidemic of selfishness or pride.
Narcissist.
Or, in other words, someone who is only able to focus on self needs and perceives all other humans as simply being natural extensions for obtaining personal desires. To the narcissist people are tools. Only their desires matter. Someone who literally doesn't have the brain connections to feel real love for another, or sacrifice for anyone but themselves.
Blacks are highly narcissistic. This is likely due to no fault of their own, but rather tens of thousands of years of past history on the continent of Africa with it's unique cultures and physical attributes.
This is literally where the foundation for the word "niggardly" was arrived at.
Women are generally narcissistic as well. Though certainly not all.
Jews are little more than a culture built on a foundation of purely justified narcissism.
The political left is pretty much just a bunch of narcissists being manipulated by understanding psycopaths.
We are living an epidemic of narcissism. Which is the same thing as saying an epidemic of selfishness or pride.
Your family is fucked up and may have bad genes. Your girlfriend is probably too good for you.
Are you able to control your emotions and not act impulsively?
Your family is fucked up and may have bad genes. Your girlfriend is probably too good for you.
Are you able to control your emotions and not act impulsively?
Maybe she is, she doesn't really have any bad qualities i can think of
Maybe she is, she doesn't really have any bad qualities i can think of
You sound love drunk. Sober up.
You sound love drunk. Sober up.
Im not love drunk at all, more like love confused if anything. The idea someone can love me for who i am and not as a segway to their own interest is really hard for me to process sometimes
Im not love drunk at all, more like love confused if anything. The idea someone can love me for who i am and not as a segway to their own interest is really hard for me to process sometimes
Faith is what you need here
Faith is what you need here
Because they are nice people. My parents were like yours. They hated each other and because of that us. I stopped talking to my entire family in my young 30s because they drove me mad. Sure im no saint but everything was just so negative. Enjoy the good vibes around you.
Because they are nice people. My parents were like yours. They hated each other and because of that us. I stopped talking to my entire family in my young 30s because they drove me mad. Sure im no saint but everything was just so negative. Enjoy the good vibes around you.
It seems like you already intuitively know the answer here and that your past was unhealthy and you are witnessing a healthy dynamic for possibly the first time.
The trick is your mind can know all these things. You can know consciously what is right or wrong, your mind can perceive that you were raised in an unhealthy manner and can even recognize what healthy traits would look like. However, how do you re-program your subconscious (beneath your conscious mind)? You cannot think your way out of learned behaviour, childhood trauma, and programmed responses. So is there a way to reprogram your subconscious and heal? What do you think?
It seems like you already intuitively know the answer here and that your past was unhealthy and you are witnessing a healthy dynamic for possibly the first time.
The trick is your mind can know all these things. You can know consciously what is right or wrong, your mind can perceive that you were raised in an unhealthy manner and can even recognize what healthy traits would look like. However, how do you re-program your subconscious (beneath your conscious mind)? You cannot think your way out of learned behaviour, childhood trauma, and programmed responses. So is there a way to reprogram your subconscious and heal? What do you think?
They're subconsciously happy you're not a nigger or a female. That's probably the extent of it.
They're subconsciously happy you're not a nigger or a female. That's probably the extent of it.
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