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In terms of dating someone, is it better to wait it out for years, or just propose and ask after a few months? ive been asking my pastors, and they all mentioned time doesn't really matter, and some of the best marriages were ones where the dating window was super short ( up to 6 months). so then, seeing as ive been dating my girl for a few months, part of me wonders if proposing now is any worst than waiting it out until later? not sure what the pros and cons are, except for the eternal jew telling everyone dont get married, dont have kids, dont settle down, sleep around with a bunch of people, etc, etc

In terms of dating someone, is it better to wait it out for years, or just propose and ask after a few months? ive been asking my pastors, and they all mentioned time doesn't really matter, and some of the best marriages were ones where the dating window was super short ( up to 6 months). so then, seeing as ive been dating my girl for a few months, part of me wonders if proposing now is any worst than waiting it out until later? not sure what the pros and cons are, except for the eternal jew telling everyone dont get married, dont have kids, dont settle down, sleep around with a bunch of people, etc, etc

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[–] • 1 pt

I think that living together for a few months is mandatory before a marriage. You don't really know a person until you live with them.

[–] [deleted] • 2 pts

Would it surprise you to learn that marriage success rates are lower amongst those who lived together first?

[–] • 0 pt

If you mean that by them deciding not to marry after living together for a while, then no it wouldn't surprise me.

If you mean that by saying that they would divorce later in life, then I would say it's exactly the opposite of what I have witnessed.

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

So it would surprise you! I'll track down the research.

It kinda seems like you would be surprised to learn that your anecdotal experience doesn't translate to the bigger picture. Weird.

[–] • 1 pt

I disagree. Moving in with men causes them to avoid commitment because you're already playing house together.

[–] • 0 pt

This is exactly why I'm recommending it. If a man started to act that way it would mean he is very immature, and not ready to commit. It's also likely he wasn't aware of this himself and would only find it out after marriage. Many such cases.

[–] • 0 pt

Moving is expensive, monetarily and in time. It's also mentally traumatizing to some degree. I was depressed this move even though my last place sucked in every way imaginable. It felt like leaving home.