I'm going to politely challenge your thinking. Apologies in advance for being long winded ... this is a topic I've personally spent many hours on.

We are working on a plot large enough for our families….
(from your comment below): Looking at locations that don’t require major thoroughfares within a reasonable distance. Travel by night using nvis.

You are mixing both pre-collapse and post-collapse thinking. This is dangerous.

Let's say I own a farm. I know my neighbors back 2-3 generations. They are good folk and we've got each other's backs. Sarah, down the road, sat by my sick wife for 2 weeks so I could run the farm. John, up the road, helped me fix a broken water pipe at 3AM on Christmas day. We will go to the wall for each other.

Let's say some city folk (you) buy some land to go shoot their guns and go camping. Or so they say. Maybe they are cooking meth, I don't really know. Times are good, so I don't really care. They come every few weekends, but they are city folk - they will always be strangers. They don't go to the local church, they aren't part of the community.

Shit hits the fan. No more police, no more 911. Cities are burning. Lots of strangers are roaming the countryside. Everyone is jumpy. Some teenager tries to steal some of John's tools from his barn. John shoots the would be thief. We help bury the body without being asked twice. It's only John's word that the teenager was a thief, but that's good enough for everyone. Maybe that teenager was just trying to track down his dog that got away. But, we are going to take John's word for it.

Oh, and he was your nephew. Now we've a problem on our hands. Rumor is, you guys are still doing meth. Who knows, likely not true, but I'm not going to risk my life to disprove a rumor. At a minimum, I'm not going to help you with anything. Worst case, it becomes a shoot on sight situation. We have lots of shovels and no-one is going to be looking for your body any time soon.

Point being - you can't live thru a major collapse without either (a) Hollywood style walled compound or (b) a community of trusted neighbors. You won't be able to create that after a collapse. Strangers moving after a collapse will always be seen with distrust.

The above story is fiction, but not too far from the truth for me. 15 years ago, I bought some land with similar ideas. I'm the city folk in that story. I still own the land and the neighbors are good people, but I'll always be an outsider. I've sense gotten wiser and have moved to a place that I could create my own community. Now, where I'm at is where I'd be if we face a system wide collapse.

how you gonna get there when SHTF?