I barely knew him, but thinking about what he was like I'm pretty sure I'm very much like him. I'm guessing he just wasn't interested in having three kids There was probably a lot of stuff he could have taught me, but he didn't, so I learnt everything I needed by myself. So I guess I became self sufficient by necessity I can certainly see that having an involved Dad might produce a better outcome for some kids, especially with having someone rooting for me, but tbh I doubt he'd be that good at any of it. I'll take the *slightly* above average IQ though, it got me away from a shitty industrial town and it keeps me amused