1) Ambition. Someone who works really hard with 100IQ contributes more to society than someone with 140IQ who is lazy.
2) Self-Care I always dieted and exercised with the expectations that I'd meet someone who had strong standards for themselves as well.
3) Hobbies I'm not clingy and more on the logical-autisty side. I like my personal space and always wanted someone who would leave me be and have my own space. I didn't want to merge all hobbies. I imagine most girls would want to have some hobbies and time to spend together DOING something, otherwise you might bore them.
4) Financial Intelligence Men who spend $20,000 on some dream car and dump thousands into it before even buying a home enraged me. Lots of guys have 0 clue how to budget or save/spend money. It's scary common to see them blow all their money on material things.
5) Drug Free Girls use drugs and drink way less than most dudes. When looking for a girl ease up on heavy drinking lifestyle. I know it's cool for dudes in their 20's to drink too much, but when looking for a mate girls don't want drunks. Stop smoking, limit alcohol, and cut all hard drugs out of your life.
I dunno I'm sure I'm missing stuff. Hopefully that helps someone. Good luck lads.
Damn girl are you me? You're not "autisty" for having a brain, self deprecating jokes can become self fulfilling so don't say those kinds of things anymore.
Anyway, agree with this entire list. I would probably add cleanliness because even though I'm happy to clean for my man, leaving things strewn about like a child is a major turnoff.
Also, Marvel/fantasy/gaming...that entire subculture of men is gross to me. So I'll say "adult hobbies/interests."
I know it's cool for dudes in their 20's to drink too much
Nope. These are losers. Always have been. If they continue it into their 30s, most certainly loser alcoholics.
It's one thing to not know your limits or simply trying to figure things out with illegal drinking or actively after legal drinking age. But any man, and doubly so for women, who constantly seek to get drunk and party, are losers' losers.
Celebrations are something worthy of celebration. Drunkenness, regardless of the cause, is a loser's behavior.
Agreed. My best friend died of an overdose when I was in high school and too much drugs or alcohol, even too much weed use, has been a turn off to me ever since.
Learn to live sober and maybe endulge on occasion, but if you can't go a week without smoking weed or drinking or whatever, that's a no from me.
I am married with kids but when I was in the dating pool, I wanted a guy who had productive hobbies and was not too interested in video games or tv. I knew wayyyy too many guys who were just obsessed with gaming/tv and it was a huge turnoff. A guy who knows how to fix things was important to me as my dad was always DIY'ing things and that was such a valuable skill.
And I also stayed far away from man-whores. I know a lot of ladies are attracted to the fuckable Chad or whatever, but I grew up with a good dad and brothers and was not interested in short term male attention. I honestly thought those guys carried diseases.
I also looked for signs that he had his shit together. It seems small, but I knew my husband was the one after I saw how he folded his shirts Marie Kondo style (before that was a thing). If he had his laundry together, I knew other areas of life would also be cared for with diligence and organization.
I loved that he played guitar too and wasn't partying hard like everyone else.
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