Nothing beyond the absolute agreement that divorce would never be on the table. Together for 13 years, seemed like essentially a perfect marriage; many children; money was always tight, but we always had each other. I got very sick; took years to recover. Probably what pushed her over the edge. She had a mental breakdown. No warning at all; her personality completely shifted, practically overnight. Ended up walking out within 6 months of the first real revelation that something was wrong. Been more than two years. Half the time all I can think of is Invasion of the Body Snatchers she is so different. Sometimes it literally gives me chills when I speak to her, hearing her voice but with what seems like a completely different person using it. In the end though, I took a vow and regardless of what anyone else does my children will see that honor and faithfulness are possible, and the only acceptable option. There is essentially nothing you can do to truly protect yourself. This is a fallen world and our current, hostile legal system is just a symptom and product of that. You as a man are on the front lines of the battle, standing between the world and the ones you love. It's a fight to your death no matter what else happens. All you can do is be a man and face it, or choose a cowardly surrender and sacrifice those who depend upon you. The fact that you live at all is a testament to those who went before you. Personally, I'll keep fighting for a better world for my children and theirs.