Even though my wife thought I was out of line in telling my daughter NOT to date, marry, or otherwise hang out with black guys, it was still MY job to do so, and I did it (among the other life lessons I had for her). To me, being a dad means that I prepare my kids for the world as it is, not as I wish it was. When I watch the dynamic between my wife and my daughter it is very apparent to me that my wife wants to be our daughter's friend, as well as her mother. I figure she's going to have more than enough idiots in the friend role, but she has one papa, and if I were to not do what I'm supposed to do, chances are there will be no one else in her life to just tell it like it is, damn the consequences. I love her enough to let her hate me for doing what is right and necessary.
You can be your kid's parent or thier friend, but not both. When you are thier friend they gain a friend but lose a parent. That is a horrible thing to do to your own kid just so YOU could have a friend.
You should be both, but if it ever becomes necessary, your job as a parent supercedes that of a friend.
Parents who are cold and distant because they're trying to maintain authority can just as easily lose a kid's respect as a parent who is too indulgent. They have to know you care to understand why your wishes matter, otherwise they'll think you have your interests in mind instead of theirs.
In the coal burner example, it could just as easily be a "this will piss off dad". Though I'd guess in 3/4 cases it's because the parents are just as brainwashed as the kids.
You should be both,
It doesn't work that way. These are two very distinct psychological positions in a child's mind. If you think you are walking that line you are deluding yourself and have no idea what is actually happening.
Parents who are cold and distant
You do not have to be cold and distant to be a parent. That is completely wrong. Parents are loving and caring. You have incorrectly correlated love and kindness with friendship. No kid should be under the impression that thier friends care and love them more than thier parents.
You can't be both. You don't get the dichotomy of the two if you think you can.
Parents who are cold and distant because they're trying to maintain authority can just as easily lose a kid'
That isn't the way to be a parent... Why are you pretending it is? That's not even remotely the lines he's going for.
I love her enough to let her hate me for doing what is right and necessary.
Nothing else needs to be said.
This reminds me of this classic scene:
To the surprise of no one, the kikes that wrote that made it fail completely. She still fucked him, out of rebellion, and uncharacteristically Tony did not make the kid pay. Though to be honest, he fucked up by not going to her first.
In the rest of her time at college, she recites standard SJW dogma and gets head pats from her family for being so "smart". That's the root of the problem, and if the character was remotely realistic as A MOB BOSS, none of that shit would fly.
Maybe, although Italian mafia is mostly beholden to kikes. Because of course they are.
The time to tryout for role of bestest bud is when your kid is an adult...not when your kid is a kid.
To a point. No matter what, I'll always be her only papa, so that will always be the most important role for me. She's an adult now, or as close as one can get to being an adult at 18, and so far, so good. I would say we're closer to peers now, but I think she's comfortable with keeping me in my role. Not to say that the friendship side isn't there, but it's definitely secondary.
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