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I'm not saying I care much, but figured we could get a good thread going with tips, stories and pointers on assertiveness and perception in general.

I'm not saying I care much, but figured we could get a good thread going with tips, stories and pointers on assertiveness and perception in general.

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[–] • 20 pts

When you like yourself it doesn’t matter what anyone else says

[–] [deleted] • 6 pts

This is the only answer. Once you love yourself more than anyone else's criticism, their opinions become null and void.

[–] • 2 pts

It appeals to man's pride for sure, but the reality is this sort of mindset is why society is hemorrhaging.

The real answer is Christ, for when Christ has favored you what is the opinion of doomed creatures

[–] • 2 pts

Dude, jesus isn’t the answer to literally everything.

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

I understand what you mean, where society becomes sacrilegious and loses it's values. However, can't you see the parallels in our perspectives? If you embrace God/Christ to where other's criticism mean nothing to you, is that not similar to embracing yourself to achieve the same thing?

[–] • 4 pts

And the opposite is true.

When you hold others in contempt you cannot take anything they say seriously

[–] • 1 pt

I bklelive this was immortalized with the phrase "Your Boo-ing means nothing. I've seen what makes you cheer'

[–] • 1 pt

Be your own best friend. When you stop caring about what anyone else thinks people gravitate to you.

[–] • 8 pts

Three things.

  1. Not everyone is created equal. Not everyone has the same experiences. If you are smarter or more wise, realize that they are stupid without malice or disdain. If you are the stupid one, listen to what they have to say. Wheb you realize people are dumb but don't hold it against them their opinion doesn't matter.

  2. Nobody cares about you. Everyone thinks their actions and influence is greater than it is. You are the primary character in your story. Everyone else is secondary. Those people feel the same way about you. You simply aren't as important to then as you think, and that's a good thing. Who gives a fuck? Nobody.

  3. Remove emotionality from yourself. Having feelings is great. Allowing feelings to make any action or influence actions whatsoever is stupid. Wheb you can say you make every choice from logic and thought then you will realize most people don't. And that's ok. But it also makes their opinions useless.

[–] • 7 pts

age

[+] [deleted] • 1 pt
[–] [deleted] • 6 pts

It helps to cultivate an utter disdain for most people. Just remember that 80% of all people are total assholes, and pray that you're one of the other 20%.

[–] • 1 pt

If you think your family doesn't have an asshole in it, congratulations, you are the asshole.

[–] • 6 pts

Put sticky notes everywhere thats say, "I dont give a fuck!" Idk, just an idea. It worked for me with my road rage issues.

[–] • 2 pts

The influx of California's is fueling my rage. Not a bad idea

[–] • 5 pts

Get fit or become autistic.

[–] • 1 pt

I have at least 1.5 of those.

[–] • 4 pts

I think a lot of it comes with age/experience. Not something easily passed on as "advice". But, trying the best I can here:

If you're true to yourself, the opinion of others becomes meaningless.

By "true to yourself", I mean that if you're balding ~ own it and clip your hair close. If you're going grey, own it and don't try to cover it with a shitty dye job (hint, all dye jobs are shitty, even if they cost $1000). Stop tying your self image to outside objects, like a Vehicle, or a residence, clothes fit in here too (at least from a brand name aspect). When you do things For you in life, outside opinion suddenly doesn't matter... hence, you care less.

I noticed a BIG uptick in no caring when I stopped paying for TV service in 2011, and going to movies (kinda tapered off for a decade, but last was probably 2013). Suddenly the press of advertising, which is just subliminal programing of how to think, was gone.

[–] • 4 pts

Life is too short to have fucks to give.

[–] • 3 pts

Understand that you're biologically driven to measure your success by what other people think. Not your fault. You understand that the opinions of you held by the mass of people are insane. Most people are asleep. So there's probably no way to be completely careless, but cut yourself a break. And maybe consider ye olde Armor of God. Cuz that's what it was designed to deal with, I think.

[–] • 3 pts

It is easier said than done. Saying drunk most of the time does help, but it comes at a price.

[–] • 3 pts

Caring less. Not stop caring completely. Choosing carefully what you will care for clears the head of intrusive thoughts about things you shouldn't care about. For example, young people care too much about what people think about them. Especially their friends. conforming is more important at that age. As you get older you get more effective at sorting things you care about.

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