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Been living with my gf for 8 years until a couple months ago when she up and left, taking only her clothes and massive collection of "thundercats" toys and collectibles. Which is fine, because I'm not really interested in continuing a relationship with her, but the problem is that she left all the rest of her stuff. I told her I didn't want any of her stuff, and I invited her back a few times since, but she only took a couple things here and there each time. Now she blocked my phone and I can't contact her anymore, but I still have all these really personal things like keepsakes from her grandparents, irreplaceable photos of old friends and family, mementos of childhood, trip souvenirs, diaries, the list goes on... I don't want this stuff in my house, but I also think if I threw it all away, it would be the shittiest thing I've ever done. But she seems to be giving me no choice.

Been living with my gf for 8 years until a couple months ago when she up and left, taking only her clothes and massive collection of "thundercats" toys and collectibles. Which is fine, because I'm not really interested in continuing a relationship with her, but the problem is that she left all the rest of her stuff. I told her I didn't want any of her stuff, and I invited her back a few times since, but she only took a couple things here and there each time. Now she blocked my phone and I can't contact her anymore, but I still have all these really personal things like keepsakes from her grandparents, irreplaceable photos of old friends and family, mementos of childhood, trip souvenirs, diaries, the list goes on... I don't want this stuff in my house, but I also think if I threw it all away, it would be the shittiest thing I've ever done. But she seems to be giving me no choice.

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[–] • 59 pts

Drop all the shit at her parent's.

[–] • 17 pts (edited )

This is the correct response. But make damned certain you are dropping it off at her parents, and not using the "opportunity" to talk to them in any way, including to get closure. Do the deed; one trip, consider your moral obligation met, and move along home (with a clear conscience and a firm resolve). You get to have a new section of your life to go live.

[–] • 3 pts

If that's possible, he might not know them.

[–] • 11 pts

8 years. He likely knows them.

[–] • 0 pt

It could also be they live a couple thousand miles away

[–] [deleted] • 2 pts

Yeah there's no reason not to be the better person. You'll feel better about yourself. ^

[–] • 1 pt

Fuck that I'll bet her mom's a bitch.

[–] [deleted] • 4 pts

Doesn’t matter. He’s not doing because he likes the mom, he needs to do it because it’s the right thing to do.

[–] • 0 pt

It's really not. She obviously doesn't want them. Why should he go out of his way at all for someone that blocked him for his attempts to get her her shit back.

[–] • 1 pt

And fill them in on the nigger she left you for.

[–] • 23 pts (edited )

I bought a new plastic garbage can and packed my ex's stuff carefully in it and put it in the garage. when I told her it was in a garbage can in the garage she was pissed. I did keep everything clean and nicely packed. Fuck her. keep in mind. A monkey doesnt let go of one branch (cock) until it has a firm grip on another branch (cock). Living well is the only revenge you'll ever get. From this day on act like shes dead. No communication.

EDIT: change the locks. My ex stole my military ribbons. (12 of them and a complete pain in the ass to replace) 1 motorcycle glove. 1 boot. etc.

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[–] • 6 pts (edited )

My ex stole my military ribbons. (12 of them and a complete pain in the ass to replace)

Tell that dumb bitch that its a federal offense to steal those because "technically they are federal property" (Probably not, but she won’t know lol), so either return it undamaged or I'm going to report it to the feds. Send a text so you can get her admitting to it.

Once she admits to stealing it, go to small claims court and say you're a vet that got his ribbons stolen by some crazy bitch, use the text as proof They'll make her return it.

[–] • 2 pts

Should have filed a police report on it already.

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

What the fuck ribbons are those?

https://www.medalsofamerica.com/

I had to replace a full salad bar for a funeral and got it the next day. Was overpriced all to hell but that was the stupid tax i had to pay for loosing it in the first place.

[–] • 3 pts

that website didnt exist in 1990 when she stole them

[–] • 15 pts

If you know of any other family members, contact them and ask them to come get it. Don't be nasty, just say you need to move them out, or they have to be thrown away as your ex didn't seem to want them.

If that fails, toss them. She apparently didn't want them.

[–] [deleted] • 11 pts

It's shit she didnt care about. Think about that and it tells you what she thinks about her keepsakes.

[–] • 3 pts

It is shit that is probably very valuable to other family members. It belongs to the family, not just her, even if she doesn't care. It would probably hurt them deeply to find out that the grandparent's stuff was just junked.

[–] • 4 pts

caring about her other family members

Just White people things.

[–] • 9 pts

search her diary, find some good parts and publish them here

[–] • 2 pts

I read it all, and sadly none of it was juicy.

[–] • 8 pts

Box it up and give it to a mutual friend.

[–] • 6 pts

Drop it off at one of her relative's house.

[–] • 10 pts

take selfies showing you doing it too. Video proof of you packing it up and giving it to her family (faces are great) would prevent any bullshit legal troubles down the road.

[–] • 6 pts

She'll want it back someday, for sure.

[–] [deleted] • 5 pts (edited )

You've tried to give it to her multiple times and she refused to take it and blocked you. What more can you do? You have no duty to act as a free place of storage for her. Read up on the laws in your state to find out the criteria you need to meet to not be on the hook for it and then donate it to goodwill. I think in some states they have 90 days to come get it or something like that.

[–] • 3 pts

Sounds like abandonment to me. Drop it at a relatives, take a few photos for proof. Change all your locks, lock all gates and fenced areas.

[–] • 4 pts (edited )

Rent a storage locker, put it in her name, send her the bill. If she refuses to deal with it they will auction it off or trash it out. You will have a clean conscience.

[–] • 3 pts

Had a similar. Drop everything off at parents or grandparents, they will understand.

Also, no legal jeopardy, because ya, that happens.

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