I have been there, after 6 months of lies. Ultimately what I realized was the question I asked myself, "why was I a good fit for a narcissist for so long?" Odds are you are an Empath or display empathy too often, when you honestly need to be more Mean. Get into martial arts, that's what helped me develop a better fierce survival instinct. We're programmed to be too nice, this is only the beginning. Use this ass-kicking to destroy them the next time, because they WILL come back around. You have to be strong enough to crush their balls in the door.
It's really weird I talked with a kinda therapist more a friend and some one who delta with family of raccisist and we came to a weird conclusion... very weird.
I'm what we called a thriver... this narrcisist had a narc parent and she developed some of her issues from that so genetic and learned she is mean has no empathy and has the narricist issues the fake face she shows the world, the inner demon and the injured inner child. And she is kinda type a personality and grew up poor so money matters...
Well she basically turned me around somewhat her criticism and complaints all I did was improve and get better and better got in shape got up early every day cleaned more and on and on and on helped her at her lowest point built her back up... then boom something changed in her mind and I got completely ghosted... now I'm having to be self motivated it is weird because I gave her unconditional love and did what most humans don't do... I actually changed habits lol...
Anyways thanks for the comment will try to keep moving forwadd
Have you considered you might see the criticism of the narcissist as stimulation for beneficial change?
Dude I'm so empty and hopeless right now it's weird because I've never been this way I've always been an optimist and in general happy and content I don't know how a person can effect someone so much... I'd describe it as losing a wife before you had kids like she died... but the person is alive and you just found out they have a serious mental thing going on and even though you know you can help them they still turn towards negative options.. I'd say having a kid addicted as they destr9y their lives would be similar... now I'm just trying to get by
Yeah it sucks. She's probably riding some other dude because she has no self esteem. Keep getting up early and getting jacked. Let a good broad come to you.
Ya i saw the new dude on face book shorter then me.. tattoos. Liberal kinda.. its kinda insane
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