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It's been rough year getting ghosted by what turned out to be a narrcisist..

It's been rough year getting ghosted by what turned out to be a narrcisist..

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[–] • 2 pts

I have been there, after 6 months of lies. Ultimately what I realized was the question I asked myself, "why was I a good fit for a narcissist for so long?" Odds are you are an Empath or display empathy too often, when you honestly need to be more Mean. Get into martial arts, that's what helped me develop a better fierce survival instinct. We're programmed to be too nice, this is only the beginning. Use this ass-kicking to destroy them the next time, because they WILL come back around. You have to be strong enough to crush their balls in the door.

[–] • 0 pt

It's really weird I talked with a kinda therapist more a friend and some one who delta with family of raccisist and we came to a weird conclusion... very weird.

I'm what we called a thriver... this narrcisist had a narc parent and she developed some of her issues from that so genetic and learned she is mean has no empathy and has the narricist issues the fake face she shows the world, the inner demon and the injured inner child. And she is kinda type a personality and grew up poor so money matters...

Well she basically turned me around somewhat her criticism and complaints all I did was improve and get better and better got in shape got up early every day cleaned more and on and on and on helped her at her lowest point built her back up... then boom something changed in her mind and I got completely ghosted... now I'm having to be self motivated it is weird because I gave her unconditional love and did what most humans don't do... I actually changed habits lol...

Anyways thanks for the comment will try to keep moving forwadd

[–] • 0 pt

Have you considered you might see the criticism of the narcissist as stimulation for beneficial change?

[–] • 0 pt

Dude I'm so empty and hopeless right now it's weird because I've never been this way I've always been an optimist and in general happy and content I don't know how a person can effect someone so much... I'd describe it as losing a wife before you had kids like she died... but the person is alive and you just found out they have a serious mental thing going on and even though you know you can help them they still turn towards negative options.. I'd say having a kid addicted as they destr9y their lives would be similar... now I'm just trying to get by

[–] • 0 pt

Yeah it sucks. She's probably riding some other dude because she has no self esteem. Keep getting up early and getting jacked. Let a good broad come to you.

[–] • 0 pt

Ya i saw the new dude on face book shorter then me.. tattoos. Liberal kinda.. its kinda insane

[–] • 2 pts

Narcissists are retarded.

Literally.

Unable to feel empathy, there are certain mental games they are incapable of winning. Once you learn these games, it becomes easy to trick them to act as your pawn.

This is why modern screen time promotes narcissism. They are easier to mind control.

[–] • 0 pt

This. I like to send them on wild goose chases so they're doing anything but annoying me. They copy you if they perceive you as being successful so you can just tell them that you're planning to do something which you're not really planning on doing and they will run off and do it without any thought to the consequences.

Have to be careful not to let them into your social groups though because once they establish themselves there's no getting rid of them.

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

Been in a lot of unhealthy relationships and made many bad choices in life, but those 3 months with the narcissist left the biggest wounds.

[–] • 0 pt (edited )

You have to stop thinking about them, it gives them power. And the narcissist will _always_ come back at some point. It's just a ruse to screw you over again. When this happens do a "gray rock" and either block them or give them one word responses.

Whatever happens, do NOT give them any information about you. You may want to show them your successes, they love when this happens because you're basically telling them what you have to offer them. So if you have them on social media etc delete them from everything. If you do not then they will use this information against you.

No doubt you want answers from the narcissist and they know this, which is how they reel you back in. Avoid the bait and the traps! This is how you win because it will drive them crazy because they thought that they had you figured out but now you're not doing what they expect. Trust me this makes them absolutely insane.

Meanwhile you can move on with your life.

Also if you only had to deal with it for a year consider yourself lucky. I had an "old friend" turn up at the door after many years. Within 3 months he was causing me all sorts of problems so I blocked him and 2 years later he's still trying to harass me by getting a girl he knows in my social group (who is now manipulated) to ask my wife for seemingly innocent information about us.

[–] • 0 pt

No, you're shedding yourself of the bullshit and have become aware. This is when you'll find more meaning, not the opposite.

[–] • 0 pt

a close relative is an acute narcissist there is a dsm entry about his condition, I forget the name. He is also a member of mensa. That is to say they are not all dumb. He is horrible to be around, once you understand the condition you avoid and remove this from your life.