Which state is that? Montana?
For me, it is a certain state of flow.
You have no fear of rejection, nor any need to pursue someone.
You have a deep drive to actually understand what another person's life is like.
Keep on asking her questions. They can't be dumb, trite things, like "how was your day".
Need to be extremely observational.
But just ask good, specific questions, they will want to answer.
Never be afraid of a eye contact.
And always suggest interesting adventures to go on
Meeting at her place or your place are pretty rapid expeditions into already charted territory, which excites nobody.
You're spot on with all that advice. The idea of suggesting interesting adventures is the same as asking about her favorite vacation destinations. She will imagine what it would be like to be with you at those places. Her opinion on that and other things is where the absence of fear and neediness allows for you to walk away unscathed if there is no interest. I'd only add, compliment what she does not accentuate. This relates to your advice of being extremely observational. Commenting on the obvious is forgettable, noticing the little things makes you memorable.
I've been happily out of the game for years, but I imagine women haven't changed that much if at all.
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