You don't meet women in a place.
You meet women in a state of mind.
This is poetic bullshit.
The fact is, relations are entirely proximity based - with almost perfect certainty. If you know what you want, in archetypal sense, then simply go where that general expression is found. If you are unable to do that, for whatever reason, then you must either resign yourself to the environment you can inhabit or determine how much you can reasonably elevate yourself - and then do so.
Asking in internet for dollar store philosophies on sexual pairing is... Whatever. None of it will ever work if the person is socially maladapted. They will struggle no matter where they are and they drop even the lowest of low hanging fruit.
It's not about a list, it's about resonance.
Ok, goth Yoda. The question is where does one place one's self to be proximal to opportunity. So you are harping on something that is already implied in the question then failed to offer any insight on the relationship of locations and opportunities.
Obviously standing in a busy intersection maximizes your number of unique human interactions but it does that in a useless way. Ergo the deconstruction of romantic pairing down to the core concept of placing male next to female is insufficient. Crowd sourcing better strategies is not a philosophical discussion, it is aggregating wisdom from the personal life experiences of the masses.
Op is not asking for you to espouse your philosophy on human pairing, simply to chip in your 2 cents on what locations, in your personal experience, offer opportunities to talk to girls.
Shoe stores, when they are having a sale.
This is the way I read it also. I'm almost 60 and this is still a question for me. Church is a no go since the women are all married or in some problem as in medical in their lives so I ruled that out. Also I cannot talk to a woman in a personal way unless we are isolated. I can talk but it's not from the soul but the brain with others around and I'm as subtle as a nuclear bomb in a punch bowl "twisted analogy".
Either that sounded cooler in your head or you need to stop reusing digs from post to post.
I answered the question in the only way that matters, and nothing about my response is implied in the question itself. The answer is: It doesn't matter, but I was trying to be more informative as to why it doesn't matter, because unless the criteria I've set forth are met - there is no universalizable location on Earth that will produce results.
The fact is, wherever there are females is where you will meet them; that's not the question; who you are when you're seeking them is the one that will determine your chance at success.
I met my wife at the mall in 1997. We have been married since 2000.
likely you gave the most correct answer. I've never been in a relationship with a woman I was only online with. It's always been sleeping with them the day I met them or soon there after or it doesn't ever happen. That is what happens every time for me without exception to this time and I can't deny facts and personal history so your answer is absolutely the most correct one.
I'm not saying proximity doesn't matter, and I am not saying environment doesn't matter.
What I was saying, imperfectly, is that you could enter any environment, and not matter how full of lonely horny housewives it is, you won't meet anybody willing to give you a premium blowjob if your attitude is not correct.
Depends what for.
To fuck: Go to where girls go to live out thier fantasy about being "adventurous, fun, wild, life of the party girls" clubs, pool parties, sand bar or other place rented party boats congregate, expensive hotel bars, places that do Bachelorette parties, vacation spots particularly all you can drink adults only hotel packages.
To marry: trendy bistros/coffee shops/Starbucks places around colleges where you can sit with your laptop edgelording on here while pretending to do school work. Every mall will have a spot to sit and try to spot single girls. Talk to girls at the gym. Join a church that does group activities. Get a cute puppy, walk the puppy.
The key is to never be home. Always be out looking good, and testing the waters. Make eye contact. Be flirty, not creepy-don't stare.
There's the problem. There's a hitch, looking good, I've tried that, doesn't work with my face. :)
First of all, that's bullshit. Women do not care about looks in the sense you think they do. Look around you, ugly mother fuckers everywhere drowning in tight, hot young pussy.
If you don't think you have looks then learn how to dress with style. Not gay peacocking frat house bullshit style. Style like a proper man. It's more about what you do with what you have than pure raw looks. Plus putting thought and purpose into your appearance makes women think you have money.
Next if you can't be Brad Pitt then work on social proof. Get all the bitches to know you and never fuck them, it will drive them crazy. Eventually their friends whom you've never met or rarely met will want to fuck you so bad they'll be running across water to suck your dick.
Which state is that? Montana?
For me, it is a certain state of flow.
You have no fear of rejection, nor any need to pursue someone.
You have a deep drive to actually understand what another person's life is like.
Keep on asking her questions. They can't be dumb, trite things, like "how was your day".
Need to be extremely observational.
But just ask good, specific questions, they will want to answer.
Never be afraid of a eye contact.
And always suggest interesting adventures to go on
Meeting at her place or your place are pretty rapid expeditions into already charted territory, which excites nobody.
You're spot on with all that advice. The idea of suggesting interesting adventures is the same as asking about her favorite vacation destinations. She will imagine what it would be like to be with you at those places. Her opinion on that and other things is where the absence of fear and neediness allows for you to walk away unscathed if there is no interest. I'd only add, compliment what she does not accentuate. This relates to your advice of being extremely observational. Commenting on the obvious is forgettable, noticing the little things makes you memorable.
I've been happily out of the game for years, but I imagine women haven't changed that much if at all.
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