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Just married recently. 30-year old trad wife.

Knows she’s needs to lose weight and get back in shape. She’s 5’7” and delightfully curvy (the good kind). Usually she’s around 130 with her DD’s and booty which is great.

Lately she’s gotten kind of down with things and she put on about 15lbs which she wants to lose.

She really wants to lose it but I think she gets too down on herself and too embarrassed to even go to the gym. So she distracts herself, doesn’t plan the gym in, and then get more down on herself and the cycle repeats.

I too need to lose a few lbs but for me it’s easy to just get in the gym and start hammering it out especially because I work for myself and set my own schedule.

I’m brand new to this married thing so I don’t know how to help guide her and lead her as her husband without making her feel bad and end up causing more harm than good.

Do any of you married men have any advice for me?

Just married recently. 30-year old trad wife. Knows she’s needs to lose weight and get back in shape. She’s 5’7” and delightfully curvy (the good kind). Usually she’s around 130 with her DD’s and booty which is great. Lately she’s gotten kind of down with things and she put on about 15lbs which she wants to lose. She really wants to lose it but I think she gets too down on herself and too embarrassed to even go to the gym. So she distracts herself, doesn’t plan the gym in, and then get more down on herself and the cycle repeats. I too need to lose a few lbs but for me it’s easy to just get in the gym and start hammering it out especially because I work for myself and set my own schedule. I’m brand new to this married thing so I don’t know how to help guide her and lead her as her husband without making her feel bad and end up causing more harm than good. Do any of you married men have any advice for me?

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[–] 6 pts

too embarrassed to even go to the gym.

lol She's bullshiting you.

Tell her about CICO and put a lock on the fridge. 10 bucks she's eating some extra snacks while you're asleep.

[–] 6 pts

CICO as most people imagine it is a myth. If you don't believe it, try eating 2,000 calories worth of wood every day and let us know how your weight's doing.

More correct, it's calories absorbed vs. calories out. Because digestion is not 100% efficient, and because some nutrients are more easily absorbed than others, and because there are a limited number of metabolic pathways, all calories are not the same. Eating 2,000 calories a day with 70% or more coming from animal fats and less than 10% from carbohydrates will make a very trim person. Those same 2,000 calories stuffed with carbs and seed oils will make for a fat person with metabolic syndrome and heart disease.

[–] 1 pt

Suggests eating wood like it’s in any way comparable to food. Then goes on to give a pedantic lesson on a technically. Food and exercise. Calories in and out. Simple. Fuck off back to Reddit faggot

[–] 2 pts

Suggests eating wood like it’s in any way comparable to food.

So what is food and what isn't food? Do you have a list, or is it defined more precisely by chemical constituents?

Calories in and out.

It's unfortunate that stupidity isn't painful. If it were, perhaps more people would be motivated not to be stupid.

[–] 1 pt

CICO as most people imagine it is a myth. If you don't believe it, try eating 2,000 calories worth of wood every day and let us know how your weight's doing.

Bwahahahahaha found the fatty!

[–] 2 pts (edited )

Bwahahahahaha found the fatty!

You wish. BMI 23. A1C 4.5.

Most of the people who don't understand metabolism think they're healthy because they're not fat, but they still have insulin resistance and visceral fat, both of which will kill them early. If they're lucky they'll get a CT angiogram and find out those carbs they though were good were instead oxidizing and glycating their LDL and calcifying their coronary arteries before it kills them.

CICO

The usual model assumes that "calories out" is constant. Sadly, the body will recognize a prolonged "starvation mode" (reduced daily caloric intake) and adjust. You may be able to cut for a few weeks, but you'll be cold and tired.

Instead, do IF and (clean) keto.

I know you're very opinionated and unlikely to change your mind on anything, but do notice that your perspective on nutrition is completely aligned with mainstream medicine, which doesn't even realize that t2 diabetes is curable.

[–] 1 pt

but do notice that your perspective on nutrition is completely aligned with mainstream medicine, which doesn't even realize that t2 diabetes is curable.

lol Fail.

Of course T2 Beetus is curable. But low-impulsion control, self-entitlement and laziness are in the way.

Your perspective on CICO is still lined up with mainstream medicine. Each macronutrient has a meaningful impact on the metabolic pathways. Carbs spike insulin, which stores fat. If the body is in fat-storing mode, when it runs out of daily (short-term) calories, it will just shut things down to burn less, rather than tap into stored fat.

You don't have to be so hostile... just reconsider. Why is society moving towards worse and worse health, in so many ways? What is different about what and how [often] we eat from 50 years ago?