Child abuse is rampant, and victims of abuse frequently perpetuate that cycle into adulthood. It's the same reason children of alcoholics often become (or marry) alcoholics as adults.
You don’t think there is some biological component to it also?
Simply put women are instinctually attracted to power, and when people are violent they misinterpret that as strength. its not completely illogical, the woman will ignore the violence if she thinks the man is strong enough. Either because she wants strong children or she wants a man who can fight off the other violent people in her life.
They dont see the violence as a problem, its not the fantasy men have where the woman is oppressed and suffering and is waiting for someone to rescue her, she enjoys drama and likes having a bully in her life. Its not about being safe its about being comfortable and that woman is comfortable around violent people.
honestly there isnt ever any helping these people. They will take every help they can unless that help actually helps her situation. your friend will get pregnant, leave him, not know who the father is, get with another brute and get pregnant to him too. she will have 4 kids to 4 men and half will be criminals themselves.
Under stress scenarios, women prefer physically strong and assertive men (like T-Rash the criminal) over physically weak and less assertive men like Bob the accountant. Because if the SHTF, her biology is screaming for a guy who can clobber someone and take their MREs.
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