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I never believed in this sort of thing, but I fell in love at first sight yesterday. I think she's my soul mate. Just being around her sets off a chain reaction of ideas, I feel confident and true to myself when I'm around her. It's not even sexual really, I mean it most definitely is, but there's so much more chemistry there between us, I can feel it. I'm shrouded in a fog until I see her and suddenly a huge gust of wind sweeps in, revealing what lay before me like a road map and street signs pointing the way to my destination. I don't know, that's just how I feel. Sad part is, she doesn't even know I feel this way. I barely know her, but I know her enough to know that I need her in my life. But I'm so passionate, I'm frightened that if I try to talk to her about any of this I might gush and turn her completely and scare her away.. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO, but I need some advice because I've since been a complete mess, which is not like me at all. I'm no spring-chicken, I've been married and had kids, divorced 6 years now, I've had more girlfriends than I can name. But NEVER have I felt like this, I didn't think it was even possible. That's why this is so strange, I had my emotions in check. Help. I'm almost more terrified of her feeling the same way about me, because holy shit I am NOT ok right now. lol What the fuck do I do? She might even have a boyfriend right now, and he might've even be there at that house where I met her. I can't sleep. I don't even have her number, don't even know where she lives. All I know is that if I wanted that information badly enough that a mutual friend of her and me would gladly tell me. Fuck I fucking hate this fuuuuuuuuck

Edit: After a good night sleep and a day of reading everyone's comments and contemplating, I think I'm just going to keep doing ME. Keep working on building myself up and making myself a more desirable mate with a high SMV. Because all women are hypergamous, without fail. And she has a higher SMV than I have right now, so she almost certainly would not be interested in a guy like me. But I'm over it. Back to the old me that doesn't give a fuck what bitches think. And enjoying the drama-free, stress-free environment of my ever-so lovely bachelor lifestyle!

I never believed in this sort of thing, but I fell in love at first sight yesterday. I think she's my soul mate. Just being around her sets off a chain reaction of ideas, I feel confident and true to myself when I'm around her. It's not even sexual really, I mean it most definitely is, but there's so much more chemistry there between us, I can feel it. I'm shrouded in a fog until I see her and suddenly a huge gust of wind sweeps in, revealing what lay before me like a road map and street signs pointing the way to my destination. I don't know, that's just how I feel. Sad part is, she doesn't even know I feel this way. I barely know her, but I know her enough to know that I need her in my life. But I'm so passionate, I'm frightened that if I try to talk to her about any of this I might gush and turn her completely and scare her away.. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO, but I need some advice because I've since been a complete mess, which is not like me at all. I'm no spring-chicken, I've been married and had kids, divorced 6 years now, I've had more girlfriends than I can name. But NEVER have I felt like this, I didn't think it was even possible. That's why this is so strange, I had my emotions in check. Help. I'm almost more terrified of her feeling the same way about me, because holy shit I am NOT ok right now. lol What the fuck do I do? She might even have a boyfriend right now, and he might've even be there at that house where I met her. I can't sleep. I don't even have her number, don't even know where she lives. All I know is that if I wanted that information badly enough that a mutual friend of her and me would gladly tell me. Fuck I fucking hate this fuuuuuuuuck Edit: After a good night sleep and a day of reading everyone's comments and contemplating, I think I'm just going to keep doing ME. Keep working on building myself up and making myself a more desirable mate with a high SMV. Because all women are hypergamous, without fail. And she has a higher SMV than I have right now, so she almost certainly would not be interested in a guy like me. But I'm over it. Back to the old me that doesn't give a fuck what bitches think. And enjoying the drama-free, stress-free environment of my ever-so lovely bachelor lifestyle!

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[–] • 4 pts

I do believe in I guess what you could call soul mates and love at first sight. Years ago I saw this girl at the gym. I was just rediculously drawn to her. She was classically good looking, but there are a lot of good looking women at the gym so it wasn't just some carnal lust thing. I can't really explain it. I was just really drawn to her. I wanted to hit on her, but I didn't because it seemed a little creeper to just go up to a stranger at a gym.

Lo and behold I run into her at my friend 'Sally's' dinner party a couple weeks later. Didn't know they knew each other. We really hit it off and chatted basically just with each other all evening. As the evening winded down I was about to ask for her number or if she wanted to go out or whatever, and she mentions she's going out of town for work for a few weeks. I then got in my head. First wondered if I'd misread the situation and she had just been being polite and now was shooing me away with a story. Then I thought even if it wasn't a "shoo" it would look pretty pathetic to try to make plans for "several weeks from now" with someone I'd just met. So I left without saying much more than nice to meet her.

Several days later I'm chatting with Sally and she said, "So 'Jane' had told me about this guy she'd thought she'd had a missed connection with at the gym. Turns out it was you and she was really excited about hanging out with you at my house. Did you like her? She said she was disappointed that after chatting with you all evening you didn't ask for her number or anything." I got Jane's number from Sally, texted her, and we went out as soon as she got back. After our first date I saw her for all practical purposes every single day for a year that was probably the happiest of my life and was totally in love in a way I'd never been before and never have been since.

I'd like to say this had a happy ending, but we did ultimately break up over me having to move (I was in the Army at the time) and not being able to handle the long distance relationship, and never saw or spoke to Jane again. But the story doesn't end there. It's been over a decade. I still think about Jane from time to time. I'm still friends with Sally, chat with her regularly, and visit from time to time. A few years ago when I heard that Jane had gotten married I told Sally that I was unreasonably upset considering how long ago Jane and I had dated. Sally told me Jane had been really upset when I'd gotten married too (since divorced - that one was not "soul mates" situation). I just visted Sally early this year, and she mentioned that though Jane has been happily married for a few years now, when it came up that I was visiting Sally, Jane talked about how she still thought of me and was still sad it didn't work out for us.

So I see Jane as my soul mate that got away.

I of course have no idea how your situation will play out, if this woman feels the same of you or anything, or etc. But my only point is you're not crazy. Strange things that can best be described as love at first sight do happen. Whether it works out or not who knows, but either way these inexplicable rediculously strong attractions and connections do happen.

I say go for it. Get her number from a mutual friend and give it a shot. It could turn into something great. And if not, well at least you know.

[–] [deleted] • 3 pts

There's no such shit as soul mates. People think it's real because people always look at the stories with the good outcomes, but most of the time it goes the other way. I had a "soul mate" and that thing was a fucking nightmare. But you don't hear about this bullshit on the Hallmark Channel. And that's reality. You meet someone you think is your soul mate, and then if anything comes out of it, if you actually get together, you'll find you've stepped into a pile of shit. Most young relationship are messy, and young men, and women don't know what real love is. Real love is something you'll find in an old couple, a bunch of old fuckers, who have been together for decades, and abandoned each other. Real love isn't some young people that are passionate, and have a hot romance. That's a flash in the pan. You'll know if you met your soulmate based on time, a long amount of time. You'll be an old fuck, looking back at your relationship, and being satisfied with your partner, you'll have that moment where you think, "Yeah, this person was my soulmate." But you can't know that on the first fucking meeting. You've had no ups, and no downs. You don't know shit about each other. You're just horny, and hoping.

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I actually 100% agree with you that real "soul mates" are those that have been through the ups and downs together through years and years and many major life events... good times and bad... loved and argued and shared and compromised and still remain committed and caring of eachother.

My point wasn't that there is some "magic" match for everyone. Just that is not an novel or even rare response that the guy is experiencing feeling an overly intense attachment to someone that it is not entirely logical. Maybe its pheremones, hormones, psychology...etc...who knows. But it def doesn't make him crazy to feel really attached to this person even if they're not close or whatever. It happens a lot, even if not airways clear why.