That is true. I know I’m going to have to do this on my own willpower but everyone else in “recovery” says it’s a “disease” (which I call a substance you enjoy, a lack of self-control, and perhaps a life you’re unhappy with) and that attending AA/NA meetings daily will suddenly fix the problem. Thanks for telling it like it is man
Also remove yourself from having access to the substances. If that means you cut out friends, do it, family? do it... whatever it takes do not make access to the substances easy. And don't hang around places or people that have or can get you easy access to it. It's hard, but you need to get a grip first then deal with those people later. You can do this and you will. I have so can you. I know it is in you to succeed past this.
Support can help. Talking to people can help. You don't have to do it alone, but the choice is yours and yours alone. Any excusatory bullshit "oh its a disease it's not my fault whaaaahhh" is just people making justifications for their actions of addiction or enablement. It is a choice. Choose wisely. You can do it.
Cancer is a disease. Getting crunk is a choice.
The disease attitude is somewhat bullshit imo. The propensity is a character trait which is mediated both by genetics. You can't get rid of that. The cycle of abuse of your body is a choice. You know a lot of people choose to drink and get high every day, and they don't consider themselves addicts because they aren't trying to quit. They like it. They may not have a disease.
It's not a disease. You're just choosing a quick bandaid for your psychological trauma. It's like taking codeine because dental work on a rotten tooth is too much work.
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