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Title is pretty self explanatory, in my life most of my family passed when I was young, father when I was 2, grandparents/aunts uncles when I was in my young teens. Now as an adult I am faced with the possibility of losing my mother, yes she is fully vaxxed (not looking for ridicule, I know the dangers and was not able to keep her from the poison), just looking for you know, advice on how to mentally deal with losing someone close without losing oneself.

Title is pretty self explanatory, in my life most of my family passed when I was young, father when I was 2, grandparents/aunts uncles when I was in my young teens. Now as an adult I am faced with the possibility of losing my mother, yes she is fully vaxxed (not looking for ridicule, I know the dangers and was not able to keep her from the poison), just looking for you know, advice on how to mentally deal with losing someone close without losing oneself.

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I lost my wife last year due to medical malpractice. So maybe my experience can help you with what will come. I woke up a happy man and when the day ended my life had been forever changed.

I'm going to get around to your question so just bear with this.

Honestly there are 2 types of deaths: expected and unexpected. With the expected deaths there are chances to make peace, say the things you wish to say, and obviously prepare for what's to come...both in terms of business and person issues. With unexpected deaths it's much harder to deal with. You don't get the chances listed above. I'm lucky I had a good loving relationship with my wife. So I'm not suffering with what wasn't said between us or the peace between us. I've just had to deal with the pain of losing a soulmate. Taking care of the above will help with the issues below and make enduring what will happen easier.

And now on to your question. I personally believe that no matter what you do, you're going to lose a little part of yourself. That person is a part of who you are. So a little part of you is lost when they die. But a part of that person is able to live on with you also.

During the hard moments that followed my wife's death there were times I was completely broken. I had friends and family to help. But in the moments that I was alone, I just had to endure the tidal wave of grief. You feel like you're drowning, but you always survive. Eventually these waves of grief come less frequent. You will always have to deal with them in some form as you're never done with enduring the grief. But you learn to live with it.

....and that's it. Your journey may be similar or completely different. But it'll be yours to make. I hope the above advice helps. I'm sorry to you and your mom. I hope you both find as much peace as can be found in this circumstance.