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Not that I can't find a random side ho out there in the world, that would be easy. But it seems being a widower is a humongous black mark on myself, I've sort of just detached from people completely. Sure I could talk to people, pretend to be nice, but all I have in my heart is pain and misery. It's kind of what I've been doing lately, more isolation from people. I think my church has started noticing, but i still keep a façade of happiness, i just choose not to partake in the extra stuff or stay around too long. All I feel is resentment and hatred towards those happy looking families. Part of me thinks I should start drinking again, sure its not the perfect solution, but what the fuck does it matter anymore? Nobody seemed to care when my wife died, they were all too busy counting the dollar bills or using her death as a pariah for their own cause. And then I think to myself, what if I die and leave some woman in the same predicament? How am I not being selfish with my own desires?

Not that I can't find a random side ho out there in the world, that would be easy. But it seems being a widower is a humongous black mark on myself, I've sort of just detached from people completely. Sure I could talk to people, pretend to be nice, but all I have in my heart is pain and misery. It's kind of what I've been doing lately, more isolation from people. I think my church has started noticing, but i still keep a façade of happiness, i just choose not to partake in the extra stuff or stay around too long. All I feel is resentment and hatred towards those happy looking families. Part of me thinks I should start drinking again, sure its not the perfect solution, but what the fuck does it matter anymore? Nobody seemed to care when my wife died, they were all too busy counting the dollar bills or using her death as a pariah for their own cause. And then I think to myself, what if I die and leave some woman in the same predicament? How am I not being selfish with my own desires?

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[–] • 10 pts (edited )

All I feel is resentment and hatred towards those happy looking families.

Im no professional, but that statement right there has got me thinking no, you dont have a shot of making a happy family in your current frame of mind. You need to get your head straight before you bring someone else in.

[–] • 6 pts

Shun alcohol as you shun the jew, for they are cousins.

[–] [deleted] • 3 pts

This exactly. There's no negative situation alcohol can't make even worse.

[–] • 5 pts

Do you have kids? If not you should be able to find a woman easily.

[–] • 0 pt

Three options.

Pay for a surrogate Pump and dump. Solo mum kids are better than no kids. Play Russian roulette and marry a woman. Good luck.

[–] • 0 pt

So you don't have kids.

[–] • 0 pt

Six loser. Five my own plus a step daughter who is in turn due in April with my first grandson

[–] [deleted] • 4 pts

Please, widowers are hot stuff in the singles market once they get over the weepy stage. Well, unless you killed you wife but if you get famous for it then you will get a lot of letters from women.

[–] [deleted] • 3 pts (edited )

What would your wife want you to do? You are suffering through grief. Here's a group that may help. https://nationalwidowers.org/ People tend to seem like they don't care, but if you are putting on a happy face and isolating...how can they know you need help? It is a survival instinct to move on quickly from death. Men are expected to suck it up, while women can openly grieve and it's expected.

I echo a comment from your initial post. Take your time. You are not only grieving a sudden loss, but a windfall of money. A lot to take in and a grief counselor could provide an outlet to share your thoughts. Don't let yourself isolate.God bless.

You are young and that's an advantage. You have lots of time.

[–] • 2 pts

re "pretend to be nice" and "façade of happiness" - You're not in a position to get into a new relationship, because how is someone supposed to know the real you without you giving off these false signals? Any new partner will sense something is off and ditch you wondering if they are even safe around you. Find things you might enjoy doing and focus on that when interacting with others so they have a chance to see you and not the pretend or façade person.

[–] • 2 pts

Same question was asked 2 months ago.

Really weird that 2 guys would independently think this. (I'll assume that you are both legit people with legit questions, and not fake. I take stuff at face value here.)

But, that makes me wonder what BS society is feeding men that both of you would think so little of yourselves.

I guess it is part of the plan to destroy the family - make women useless and make men hate themselves. And, thereby, it is our duty to fight that with all of our strength, will, and soul.

[–] • 0 pt

Voat had a series of accounts that told a familiar story about his wife being in prison and asking if it was okay for their 13/14/15 year old (the age kept changing) daughter visiting her. He kept changing up some of the story and the dates/ages/details always contradicted what his claims were. I too noticed this 'widower' story popping up too frequently on Poal and wondered if this is the same LARP from Voat with a new angle. It doesn't sound organic and it is coming from more than one account.

I'm pretty sure this is bullshit from some retard like TheAmerican (GhostSkin, BigTrucker, My10thAccount, 99887766, GishKnots, etc from back on Voat). I guess some people just have nothing else going on in life that they make up stories like this to get attention or waste people's time so they can have something to do. It just doesn't sound in the least bit real. It's just another LARPing faggot with no friends and too much time on his hands.

[–] [deleted] • 2 pts

No chance. You use language like "ho" and "bitch" - what woman wants to be called that?!? You ask for life advice (with sketchy-at-best backstories, weird details, etc) on poal. You constantly talk trash about the "church" you are in - I would LOVE to have a chat with you and your pastor.

Yes, sorry for your loss. I have lost a spouse as well. But man... you don't seem to be anything like Jesus, and that is the #1 criteria for a husband [who calls himself by the Name].

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Thank God he's not like a dirty fucking Jew that commands white people to die for Jews

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When women say 'dick' about a guy, are you also offended?

[–] [deleted] • 2 pts

offended

LOL

I'm not offended by that language, nor do I see it as becoming of "husband material." I wouldn't want my daughters marrying someone like OP - offense has nothing to do with it. Can you ask a question without assuming things that haven't been stated or claimed?

[–] • 2 pts

Do you really think OP would use the words 'ho' or 'bitch' when talking to a woman?

This is an anonymous internet forum, cupcake. You wanna get offended by something, concentrate on jews or niggers.

[–] • 1 pt

Get a life, hobbies, challenges in your life and start taking chances on women and actually go for relationships and you’ll get a good one pretty fast.

Work out twice in the gym all muscle directions (it’s about 12-16 different machines) and 2-3x HITT / nonstop body weight workouts and you’ll be fit and confident you’re a chad in no time

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When you are ready to start again you will know.

My advice is treat finding a woman like you would finding a job. Take it seriously, make sure you have criteria for what you want, above all be honest and blunt about what you want.

Don’t let your lonelyness set the relationship. You are in demand, so hold to your ground rules. The bible says let women follow their husbands. The amount of men who fail this basic Christian tenet is absurd.

Good luck mate. DM if you need some advice or just want someone to talk to.

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You need to let yourself mourn. Alcohol is just a way of avoiding that. You cant even start to think about a family or a relationship until you are stable on your feet again. Of course, my many condolences to you.

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