Gordon Ramsey doesn't rag on amateur cooks, only the ones that are supposed to be professionals. The reason is, he projects his own competence on other pros, and expects to see it. When he doesn't, he is disappointed, how often do you project your own competence, or incompetence on others? I do it often and realizing this has gone a long way to tolerating others.
Often times I get mad at others because I wouldn't do that, or do things that way. Then I remember that I'm not them and I'm not privy to all their circumstances, so it's not my place to make surface judgements.
You're probably right. I expect too much of those who I interact with because I hold myself to a higher standard. Average is not good enough. My grandfather used to say if someone else can do it, you can do it better because I'm a (insert last name). He'd also say the only impossible things are those which you've already said are impossible. Once you've said it mentally you've limited yourself. I would say what sets me apart from the crowd is I can be corrected. I love debate for this reason. Everytime I lose a debate my viewpoints further refine and I walk away with a more solid knowledge base.
Having children at the peak of my career made that really difficult. I've been a bit of a hard-ass on them, and sometimes I regret that. It's easy to forget they're still learning.
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