Hating sin is not the same as hating men. Slavery was fine until the New Testament abolished it. Torture for sinning is not the same as torture for the sake of it. You only are tortured for eternity if your sin was grave. Plus, almost everyone is subject to pain in Purgatory to ascend to Heaven Love also means telling you what you dont want to hear. Love as a word is singular when in the time of Christ had multiple words to designate different types of love.