Yes goy, sleep around goy, it’s better for your future marriage, goy
The gentleman is neither a virgin nor a woman. These are abnormal circumstances and abnormal advice is absolutely on the table. OP is a big boy and will disregard it if he sees fit.
But no, the problem is that the dynamic you refer to here is extremely real--previous partners leave their mark, often in ways that we don't realize until we're inflicting it on a new partner. It is precisely because people's pasts matter that OP might benefit from a rebound with some post-wall, "child-free by choice" lost cause. Let her live in the shadow of OP's wife's ghost until OP can tidy up his mind.
THEN take a swing at virtuous women.
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