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I work out, have a good amount of money, relatively good looking by white standards. However, everywhere i look, it's one of two types of women. The first one look like , and completely dumb as bricks. The second is post 30s, and somehow they all look like like . My options are limited. And churches have virtually no women in them, the ones there are usually married from a very young age. Ideas?

I work out, have a good amount of money, relatively good looking by white standards. However, everywhere i look, it's one of two types of women. The first one look like [this](https://i.4cdn.org/b/1633530739735.jpg), and completely dumb as bricks. The second is post 30s, and somehow they all look like like [this](https://image.cnbcfm.com/api/v1/image/105999673-1562087336516gettyimages-1151688822.jpeg?v=1562087386). My options are limited. And churches have virtually no women in them, the ones there are usually married from a very young age. Ideas?

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[–] • 4 pts

early 30s, wife died from sudden onset aneurysm

[–] • 3 pts

You're fine.

Or at least, no more fucked than anybody else. Possibly less.

The only "difficult" truth is that you have to look at women 25 and younger, because the ones your age that are worth marrying...are married.

So do that. You're not remotely too old for them. Be clear about what you're looking for.

And maybe have a rebound first. Get it out of your system. Don't look for the love of your life while you're still processing your heterosexuality in your wife's absence. A low-stakes relationship is exactly what the situation calls for. You can be honest about all that too.

Dating apps are garbage, but you can sometimes find quality women on them because what alternatives exist is not obvious to women either.

You may also have to change the dating pool you're fishing in. It IS worth moving for. Somebody said Baltic states, and that's not crazy. I disagree that cities are inherently bad, just be smart about which city. The more options you have, the pickier you can be.

[–] • 1 pt

Yes goy, sleep around goy, it’s better for your future marriage, goy

[–] • 0 pt

The gentleman is neither a virgin nor a woman. These are abnormal circumstances and abnormal advice is absolutely on the table. OP is a big boy and will disregard it if he sees fit.

But no, the problem is that the dynamic you refer to here is extremely real--previous partners leave their mark, often in ways that we don't realize until we're inflicting it on a new partner. It is precisely because people's pasts matter that OP might benefit from a rebound with some post-wall, "child-free by choice" lost cause. Let her live in the shadow of OP's wife's ghost until OP can tidy up his mind.

THEN take a swing at virtuous women.