At a date? Go somewhere with activities you can both do together (and talk about afterwards) so neither of you have to be "on" the whole time, don't drop heavy stuff on the first date, just try to get to know her, ask her about her hobbies, things she's passionate about. She's church affiliated so hopefully she's not too far out there, but don't expect, or push, for her to be oven ready straight out of the gate or you'll just be that weird guy she tells stories about in future. Not saying be fake, but put your best foot forward, be frank that you're coming from a previous relationship and what you'd be looking for from this one, have a sense of grace and humour about any problems or disagreements between you, and if the two of you hit it off, man up and kiss her before the third date.