honestly, being a women, i'm not a fan of the term. I guess it's a women testing a man to make sure he is good strong leader, like the way a child tests boundaries with a parent. The child usually really wants the parent to have a firm boundary even if they don't act like it. I've been told I on occasion do this, although have not been given an example so really don't know when.
Sometimes I've caught myself acting too emotionally over something that didn't matter, then correct myself and apologize if needed. I don't think I 'test' my partner though, but then again I am in what I would consider to be a 'safe and secure' relationship. (female, if you haven't realized yet) But a testing of boundaries to ensure security would make a lot of sense, especially if you did that as a child and didn't get the security you needed. That itself seems like a primal function, since humans need social security. I can see how it can be taken to far or be a negative element in a relationship though.
I wish there was more research into this specific behavior that seems very exclusive to women. I'd be very interested to read about it!
I don't think I do it either but I guess I just have to take his word for it.
you can find a lot of youtube videos on the subject.
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