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I've been out of the dating game for around a decade. I was married but she passed away and I've bene emotionally stunted since then. I saw this cute girl at church but i have absolutely no clue what to do next? And the news cycle (Poal isnt helping here, taking in so much negative news is very bad for the psyche) gives me this negative reinforcement that asking her out would end in a disaster

I've been out of the dating game for around a decade. I was married but she passed away and I've bene emotionally stunted since then. I saw this cute girl at church but i have absolutely no clue what to do next? And the news cycle (Poal isnt helping here, taking in so much negative news is very bad for the psyche) gives me this negative reinforcement that asking her out would end in a disaster

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I knew a couple of guys who asked "Wanna fuck?" right out of the gate. It worked better than you'd think.

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It's a simple reason, actually - women like men that are confident and not afraid to speak their mind. I'd bet they were women with low self-esteem, frankly, but it isn't surprising that it would work, especially if she was drunk and lonely.

Being very direct, although I would suggest "wanna fuck?", is the best approach.