Parents fail to raise their children right for many reasons. One is because their parents did a poor job as well. I call it the generational curse that was passed down from child to child, a problem like anxiety, abuse or drunkenness that was passed down from parent to child unresolved. Another reason is the refusal to have a growth mindset. Parenting is hard work and requires constant learning and re-evaluation of your parenting techniques. A lot of people are raised on the idea that we are born with the idea of parenting correctly or our intuition is enough. WRONG. Most people live their lives in an unthinking, automatic way of living that works to certain degree and they think it’s enough for a child. Wrong. Every single interaction with your child until they leave the house is a test of your boundaries, your thinking, and your fortitude. Your child is always watching and listening how you respond so they can mimic your responses. They are reflections of who you are. The final reason I’ll give is sort of mentioned already but it’s boundaries. If you have zero self respect or boundaries, your child won’t have either for you. This goes for your adult life too - people don’t respect others who don’t have clear boundaries, who can’t say no when reasonable. We allow ourselves to be angered by a small child when the child has no other idea how to act. Is the child the real reason for your frustration or is it you that has zero control over your emotions? Just a few thoughts.