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Here i am asking for advice on my throwaway again.. i don’t know what to do here. i wanted to homeschool our kids, keep them out of daycare ect. and i know that statistically they’re more likely to fail without their dad. not to mention single moms are a joke. i’ve tried to enjoy the good moments and pretend the bad isn’t happening for years. but i get yelled at over stupid stuff almost daily, hit a few times a month at least. i’ve been hit nearly every holiday for years, especially on christmas. i’ve had so many lumps on my head, probably a few broken fingers, giant bruises, ect. he’s choked me. dragged me around by my hair. dumped full trash cans with heavy stuff on me. i can’t even list it all. he’s horrible. i’m dreading the holidays. this can’t be how my life was supposed to go. i need advice.

this is hidden from the kids so far.. my husband is a decent dad despite how he treats me. For the most part. Decent dads don’t hit their kids’ mom I guess. But he’s so protective of them, actually nice to them, that’s one of the main reasons I haven’t left. i wouldn’t keep them from him if we split, though i’d want them living with me. i don’t believe in child support, and want to homeschool the kids/keep them away from sitters. there’s probably no way to leave. should i continue to suffer silently for our kids or try to leave? if so, how? will i be viewed as a failure like typical single moms, even though my kids weren’t born out of wedlock? i would’ve left when this behavior started but it only started after i got pregnant with our first. i don’t have any family to go to because my parents were abusive as well. i feel so stuck. it’s like no matter what i do i’ll be miserable. stay and be yelled at and hit, or be single the rest of my life with kids who don’t have a dad. my life is a fucking joke. i’d do anything for my kids, i can’t stand being treated this way though. i’ve reached out on 4chan and a couple other sites and got such jewy answers. i know being a single mom isn’t ok, it’s terrible for kids and i feel selfish for even considering leaving. what do i do..?

Here i am asking for advice on my throwaway again.. i don’t know what to do here. i wanted to homeschool our kids, keep them out of daycare ect. and i know that statistically they’re more likely to fail without their dad. not to mention single moms are a joke. i’ve tried to enjoy the good moments and pretend the bad isn’t happening for years. but i get yelled at over stupid stuff almost daily, hit a few times a month at least. i’ve been hit nearly every holiday for years, especially on christmas. i’ve had so many lumps on my head, probably a few broken fingers, giant bruises, ect. he’s choked me. dragged me around by my hair. dumped full trash cans with heavy stuff on me. i can’t even list it all. he’s horrible. i’m dreading the holidays. this can’t be how my life was supposed to go. i need advice. this is hidden from the kids so far.. my husband is a decent dad despite how he treats me. For the most part. Decent dads don’t hit their kids’ mom I guess. But he’s so protective of them, actually nice to them, that’s one of the main reasons I haven’t left. i wouldn’t keep them from him if we split, though i’d want them living with me. i don’t believe in child support, and want to homeschool the kids/keep them away from sitters. there’s probably no way to leave. should i continue to suffer silently for our kids or try to leave? if so, how? will i be viewed as a failure like typical single moms, even though my kids weren’t born out of wedlock? i would’ve left when this behavior started but it only started after i got pregnant with our first. i don’t have any family to go to because my parents were abusive as well. i feel so stuck. it’s like no matter what i do i’ll be miserable. stay and be yelled at and hit, or be single the rest of my life with kids who don’t have a dad. my life is a fucking joke. i’d do anything for my kids, i can’t stand being treated this way though. i’ve reached out on 4chan and a couple other sites and got such jewy answers. i know being a single mom isn’t ok, it’s terrible for kids and i feel selfish for even considering leaving. what do i do..?

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[–] • 2 pts

You are wrong about your kids not knowing. You are teaching any male children you have to abuse their future wives. You are teaching any female children you have to accept abuse. To hell with your shame, you are a mother, your shame doesn't matter. Do your job and be a mother. You're only a whore if you sleep around. Source: me, my husband died, I went to work 2 weeks later and now have a CDL. No one thinks I'm a whore because I'm not. Nut the fuck up and do your job.

[–] • 2 pts

Are you letting strangers raise your kids while you work, or do they stay with family? I don’t have any family they could stay with and I know both public school and daycares are full of abusive, crazy people far worse than my husband. Not to mention the Marxist brainwashing. You didn’t really have a choice but my husband is still around. I’d rather risk them overhear yelling than have them molested or killed, or brainwashed into LGBT cult or something like most kids. And they haven’t been away from me a day in their lives, dumping them off on someone else bc I’m uncomfortable with my life seems cruel.

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My kids go to public school. And they are old enough to not need supervision. My daughter makes dinner, my other daughter cleans, and my son does ranch work after school. I live in a place where school isn't bad, and I did used to homeschool them. The thing is this, you are allowing your children to be mentally abused because you are scared they could be abused. And you're letting it happen in what is supposed to be a sacred space, the home. Fight back or leave. I'm not joking, if he raises his voice, walk away, do not engage. If he hits you then hit him back, he may beat the shit out of you but then you have the law on your side. Use every resource you have to save the marriage first, and if he doesn't get it, if he doesn't understand how important and sacred the home is, fuck him. Quit whining and letting fear control you. And also if he is as bad as you say he's going to leave you anyway. Get prepared now.