I subscribe to the Kellogg model of abstinence after 30. Honestly the way i see it, im white, Christian, and hated by everyone, so i may as well outcast myself from society. I don't want to impregnate a woman, or have kids. I don't mind helping others become more stable, but as far as i see it, not everyone needs a 4 kid family
You never know who you'll run into, or when.
I was in your situation some years ago. Discouraged and done with it. I went my own way, built a home, established a life, became a man.
Now I am looking for a woman to have babies with. I am in an excellent position. I thought I'd never want kids. But I am very good with kids and have a lot I can teach them. I know who I am and what I want at this stage in life. I never would have imagined it.
If you want to go woman free for a while, go out there and find what you want. Overcome some adversity. Have a stable platform for having hobbies, family, career.
You might reach a point where it feels right. For now just make yourself better physically, mentally, spiritually, and financially.
Same situation here, but stuck on the "built a home" part. I'm infuriated with the current state of the housing market and building material costs.
Do you have hope or a plan of achieving the building a home? Is that part of your goal?
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