Ok, here's what it is: At a certain age a Young boy who spends time with his father will begin to mimic his father's interests, mannerisms and share his world views. He will identify with his father first and then with being a man . Early on he will be told he is a boy and learn to be a boy while hanging out with other boys but watching his father and bonding with his father he will have a role model for what he can aspire to be. In more negative relationships he may model himself in a more negative way or aspire to be better than his father as he perceives the faults of his father. But notice this, even if he has a poor opinion of his father and how his father may have hurt him, he still identifies as a man. Almost every instance of effeminate males I've talked to they grew up without a father figure they could identify with. Some will eventually identify with other males such as an uncle who shows them attention and mentoring but some will identify with their mother. Those who bond too closely with their mother often reject their own body. It's particularly dangerous to the psyche if the mother is a man hater and passes that on to her son.