Trust your instincts. It's not rocket science. My father never changed a diaper, never pushed a stroller. Until the day he died age 79, I called him for advice not my Mother. He taught me how to defend myself, shoot a rifle and play checkers. He was a strong disciplinarian and I respected him. Just the thought of disappointing him kept me from doing stupid girl shit when I was growing up. He gave me his frank opinion of my dates. He raised 3 daughters and a son. Good luck!
FTA: Your role as a father should be this: be there and let the child know you are there in the background, and that if anything ever comes to try to harm it, you will crush that threat like an insect with the palm of your hand. That is what a child needs from you: he (or she, if you are thus cursed) needs you to be the thing in its environment that maybe doesn’t like it that much, maybe yells at it now and again, but would give his life to keep it safe if he had to, but who would never have to because he is so strong an army of creatures of the night couldn’t make him flinch.
It is imprinted on a child’s brain, part of the “firmware,” if you will, to look around in his environment and identify a nurturer and protector as distinct entities. The problem with this “two mommies” business is that if you play mommy, then the child is looking around for his father and not finding one. His primitive psyche believes that he was cursed with two mommies, and zero daddies. That is very damaging to the child. It will cause permanent damage to his psyche.
I've seen countless relationships burned forever because of discipline. It's a very fine line, too much and you breed hatred, your kid won't respect you, he hates you and will get revenge when he's bigger and your old. Too little and the system makes him a faggot.
Ideally I'd say homeschool and you probably won't face much big obstacles. Not always an option, but try.
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