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So let me give some context and explain the situation.

Me have a child 5 years old with an ex. There is absolutely zero chance of me getting with the ex basically think of it as me being a sperm donar and we are comparenting

My current gf of 2 years who we plan on having kids and are committed had a problem with this situation.

I had the 5 year old. I had about an hour to kill so I was going to go hang out in the back yard with my 5 year old and smoke a cigar waiting for her mom to get home then leave. I told my current gf about my plans because she thinks the ex is trying to get back with me. She says she trust me but doesn't trust her.

I said I wouldn't go over. She still is mad and she texted me this.

The fact that the thought went thru ur head and u thought it was a good enough idea to tell me about it is the problem

Her 3 friends agreed with her I shouldn't be at my ex house ever basically.

Now she will go to sea world with her ex and their kid? Is that ok?

So let me give some context and explain the situation. Me have a child 5 years old with an ex. There is absolutely zero chance of me getting with the ex basically think of it as me being a sperm donar and we are comparenting My current gf of 2 years who we plan on having kids and are committed had a problem with this situation. I had the 5 year old. I had about an hour to kill so I was going to go hang out in the back yard with my 5 year old and smoke a cigar waiting for her mom to get home then leave. I told my current gf about my plans because she thinks the ex is trying to get back with me. She says she trust me but doesn't trust her. I said I wouldn't go over. She still is mad and she texted me this. The fact that the thought went thru ur head and u thought it was a good enough idea to tell me about it is the problem Her 3 friends agreed with her I shouldn't be at my ex house ever basically. Now she will go to sea world with her ex and their kid? Is that ok?

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[–] • 5 pts

BRO: Heed my words.

Any time a woman thinks you're cheating, it's because she's cheating. When she says "I trust you, but I don't trust her" run that through the SWTM Standard Woman Translation Matrix: "My ex wants to fuck me".

Run. Run away.

There's a lot of actual woman-hatred here, but there's a difference between hating women and being realistic. You can be equal with a woman; you can not have less power than her. If there is to be an unbalance of power, it must be in the man's favor. If you have more power than your woman, you'll feel protective. If she has more power than you, her eye will wander- doesn't mean she's bad, just how they evolved to get the best men.

If she's allowed to go to her ex's house (or seaworld with her ex) and you aren't, who do you suppose has the power in the relationship?

You have two choices, either set her straight or leave. Seaworld with your kid and your ex is a date, bro. She's going on a date. Do NOT make kids with her. I know it sucks to hear, you probably love her and that fucks with your ability to reason.

I've known you a while, and am quite sure you're a bro. Bros don't let bros make terrible decisions. Go grab a beer with your closest bro and talk it over. If he can bench his body weight or more, 10/10 he'll say what I just said.

poke poke tell him.

Also as says, a woman whose girlfriends tell her that she's right all the time? Not a good sign. Good friends will know when she's being nuts and will break it to her gently in a way that only women are capable of.

[–] • 0 pt

She for sure has zero interest in her ex and no time to have done anything else or be looking. The entire thing is pretty complicated. I get what you are saying and know 100% where you are coming from but with out going into detail no way she is cheating...

This post has really been helpful thanks for the input I'm actually gonna reread it and see if I missed any nuggets

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Even when you think there's zero chance of cheating, there's still opportunities to do so.

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I'm not saying that she's cheating, I used that as an example of how women tend to mirror their fears/ what they're doing in their accusations. So If she says "YOUR ex wants to get with you, it's likely that HER ex wants to get with her. If she chooses to act on that or not is better for you to say than me... But seaworld is a date.