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So let me give some context and explain the situation.

Me have a child 5 years old with an ex. There is absolutely zero chance of me getting with the ex basically think of it as me being a sperm donar and we are comparenting

My current gf of 2 years who we plan on having kids and are committed had a problem with this situation.

I had the 5 year old. I had about an hour to kill so I was going to go hang out in the back yard with my 5 year old and smoke a cigar waiting for her mom to get home then leave. I told my current gf about my plans because she thinks the ex is trying to get back with me. She says she trust me but doesn't trust her.

I said I wouldn't go over. She still is mad and she texted me this.

The fact that the thought went thru ur head and u thought it was a good enough idea to tell me about it is the problem

Her 3 friends agreed with her I shouldn't be at my ex house ever basically.

Now she will go to sea world with her ex and their kid? Is that ok?

So let me give some context and explain the situation. Me have a child 5 years old with an ex. There is absolutely zero chance of me getting with the ex basically think of it as me being a sperm donar and we are comparenting My current gf of 2 years who we plan on having kids and are committed had a problem with this situation. I had the 5 year old. I had about an hour to kill so I was going to go hang out in the back yard with my 5 year old and smoke a cigar waiting for her mom to get home then leave. I told my current gf about my plans because she thinks the ex is trying to get back with me. She says she trust me but doesn't trust her. I said I wouldn't go over. She still is mad and she texted me this. The fact that the thought went thru ur head and u thought it was a good enough idea to tell me about it is the problem Her 3 friends agreed with her I shouldn't be at my ex house ever basically. Now she will go to sea world with her ex and their kid? Is that ok?

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My dude. I understand when young guys without a good role model don't understand this kind of situation. But there's really no excuse for men our age to have not learned this through experience.

Always be willing to leave over disrespect. Is she the perfect woman, full of traits you'll never be able to find again (unlikely, btw)? Be willing to leave over disrespect. Do you want to stay with her, eventually marry and have kids with her? Be willing to leave over disrespect.

If she thinks she can control you, or that her friends can decide the parameters of your relationship, you will be dealing with that crap the rest of your life. If you put your foot down now and make it clear that you are a man who would rather leave than be controlled by crazy, she will have to respect you as a man... or you will have dodged a bullet.