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So let me give some context and explain the situation.

Me have a child 5 years old with an ex. There is absolutely zero chance of me getting with the ex basically think of it as me being a sperm donar and we are comparenting

My current gf of 2 years who we plan on having kids and are committed had a problem with this situation.

I had the 5 year old. I had about an hour to kill so I was going to go hang out in the back yard with my 5 year old and smoke a cigar waiting for her mom to get home then leave. I told my current gf about my plans because she thinks the ex is trying to get back with me. She says she trust me but doesn't trust her.

I said I wouldn't go over. She still is mad and she texted me this.

The fact that the thought went thru ur head and u thought it was a good enough idea to tell me about it is the problem

Her 3 friends agreed with her I shouldn't be at my ex house ever basically.

Now she will go to sea world with her ex and their kid? Is that ok?

So let me give some context and explain the situation. Me have a child 5 years old with an ex. There is absolutely zero chance of me getting with the ex basically think of it as me being a sperm donar and we are comparenting My current gf of 2 years who we plan on having kids and are committed had a problem with this situation. I had the 5 year old. I had about an hour to kill so I was going to go hang out in the back yard with my 5 year old and smoke a cigar waiting for her mom to get home then leave. I told my current gf about my plans because she thinks the ex is trying to get back with me. She says she trust me but doesn't trust her. I said I wouldn't go over. She still is mad and she texted me this. The fact that the thought went thru ur head and u thought it was a good enough idea to tell me about it is the problem Her 3 friends agreed with her I shouldn't be at my ex house ever basically. Now she will go to sea world with her ex and their kid? Is that ok?

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[–] [deleted] 31 pts

For one your question is rhetorical. Yeah women are nuts. BTW dump the idiot GF who listens to her GFs. Guarantee they all know the size an shape of your dick. Find a female who obeys you, respects you. This chick isn't it. She will constantly be checking with her GFs on everything you say and do. Walk away before the bitch gets knocked up. I'm not kidding. I'm a woman.

[–] 3 pts

OP, listen to the above comment. Dump the bitch. Maintain cordial relations with your ex as best you can for the sake of the child.

[–] 2 pts

There is a go no go test all men must do with their partners.

They must treat their women as they would treat a man.

You cannot survive in this world with children for partners. Sooner or later they will destroy everything you've built for them in a tantrum.

[–] 1 pt

Unfortunately some of us learned this the hard way.

[–] 2 pts

It's a good genetic white woman of child bearing age. I'm 46 and want white kids and she is down with getting off grid and homesteading. I'm pretty much all in

[–] 10 pts

If you’re all in, then man up and tell her how it is. If she wants to go bat shit crazy and not be with you anymore because you communicate with the mother of your child and physically go to the house where your child spends part of her time, then let her go crazy and leave. Don’t force something that isn’t meant to happen. Either she trusts you too, and she’s all in, or this is going to be one shitty relationship.

[–] 0 pt

She is stubborn as a mule and is getting bad advice. I'm gonna just man up and remove her from these shit people get her on a farmstead and prove my value and she will fall in line. I get your point but my chance to have white kids is bigger then dealing with some minor shit like this. I'm fighting against what 75 years of feminist jew indoctrination? I'm taking taking hard road gonna fix myself and her and have good white kids. Also her ex is a liberal gamma so probably fix his kid to.

We as white men have to man up

[–] 6 pts

Then why waste the time to ask us if you're not going to listen to the advice?

[–] 6 pts

OP was hoping we'd agree with his already-decided plans.

[–] 0 pt

Dude I got tons of good advice from this post. I was actually surprised

[–] 2 pts (edited )

My dude. I understand when young guys without a good role model don't understand this kind of situation. But there's really no excuse for men our age to have not learned this through experience.

Always be willing to leave over disrespect. Is she the perfect woman, full of traits you'll never be able to find again (unlikely, btw)? Be willing to leave over disrespect. Do you want to stay with her, eventually marry and have kids with her? Be willing to leave over disrespect.

If she thinks she can control you, or that her friends can decide the parameters of your relationship, you will be dealing with that crap the rest of your life. If you put your foot down now and make it clear that you are a man who would rather leave than be controlled by crazy, she will have to respect you as a man... or you will have dodged a bullet.

If you only knew how many White women would be happy to be her. The key is traditional white women. Go to church man.

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I'm not a big fan of churchians so to speak. I am living a moral life and basically Christian based moral code if anything I try to be even better but I can't get behind a religion that half its book is the jews book the first half the original God aka yahew not gonna worship a jew God sorry

[–] 1 pt

good genetic

thru ur head and u

Yeah, you sure know how to pick 'em.

FYI the only way to judge the genetic potential of a woman is to look at her male relatives.

And the only quality that life can't take away from you is class.

[–] 0 pt

Her uncle millionair black belt in jujitsu a dude a real dude. I been out to his house boat and gonna do some work on his ranch.. that said a lot of women in that family and it seems almost like a matriarchy if it was not for the alpha uncle. Gonna learn from him on many levels

[–] 0 pt

Sorry to say this, but you are carrying a ton a genetic mutations in your sperm. You are not good genetic anymore (starting a family at 40 showed poor genetic to begin with). Your kids will have a much higher chance of being autist, schizo, have birth defect, etc. The kids are also more likely to have poor health and immune system. The pregnancy risk of gestational diabetes is increased, early birth, late still birth, etc.

You are wasting a good genetic white woman, realize you wasted your opportunity. You can still help in other ways.

[–] 2 pts

Disagree, the chances are higher but not that much higher if he kept himself together. Most of the new studies trying to show men's risk is to make women feel better about their much much sharper fertility decline.

[–] 1 pt

Gas yourself, kike

[–] 0 pt

If you're a woman, why on earth do you think women spend their time talking about their intimate partners' genetalia? I've never known a single woman to bring this up and I certainly never have. How would it even come up in conversation? And who would be interested? But she's right, your girlfriend is being totally crazy and should have enough respect and trust for you not to be crazy. That said it's a pretty normal thing to get weird and jealous over. Still a woman respects a man who says what he thinks even if she doesn't want to hear it- that's how you know you can trust somebody, when they tell you the truth when it's hard. So tell her she's being silly and show her that you love her, it'll sort itself out.

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I sure as fuck don't talk about my husband's genitalia with others - because it belongs to me and only me.

My relationship with my husband is nobody's business except for mine, and any issues are spoken about only with him. Anything else is disrespect of him.

[–] 0 pt

Right! My friends and I have definitely never talked about our husbands that way. But then usually we have our babies with us and you know, we met when we were older. I do remember talking about that stuff with friends in high school who were doing that stuff. Maybe it's an age thing.

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Women are no longer raised to be supportive wives. To raise their man up by always being respectful in public and expectant of the best in private.

BFFs are the doom of good relationships. I had/have zero bffs. You are dreaming if you think they don't talk about sex. duh

Nobody knows women better than another woman, she seems low level tolerable crazy so i'd take her advice and dump your gf asap.

[–] 0 pt

Give her a test. Expect her to man up and if she doesn't then dump her.

The wicked step mother is a meme with factual basis. Women demand men all for themselves and demand that older nests be cleaned out of past offspring

[–] 0 pt

100% right. I've seen this a thousand times. A woman has all these friends who love to throw their two cents in on matters that have no consequence to them. They'll tell their friends to "dump that loser!" Meanwhile they're dating a guy who literally has no job and beats them that they won't leave cause he's "hot" or he's "misunderstood" or some other bullshit excuse.

Basically, a bunch of women whose lives are a complete mess want to chime in and advise your gf about how she should approach your relationship, and if your gf listens to them she's as dumb as her friends and is not worth your time.

[–] 10 pts

demands you dont go near your ex...

going to seaworld with ex.

massive red flags. id be leaving. she projecting.

[–] 10 pts

she projecting.

Exactly, she's banging her ex. OP is getting played

[–] 1 pt

This is the most likely scenario.

[–] 2 pts

Was going to say this. Her being so suspicious of you or "of your ex" likely reflects her own fear of getting found out or caught with her ex.

It sounds crazy, but I used to date less-than-reputable people and it was almost always what was really going on when they started getting jealous or defensive of innocent shit I was doing.

Walk away and dont look back.

[–] 5 pts

Over the years you have posted many "situations" in your life on both Voat and Poal. Unless you are just trolling us with made up life drama bullshit stories, then perhaps you suck at life. You need to get your shit together and stop turning to the internet for solutions to your problems. The more you post this shit, the more you look like a pussy who can't handle life.

[–] 2 pts

Lol.. I you truly had seen my post about shit in my life it is from someone who went from degenerate type life style to be coming moral and wanting to have white kids. You also know I'm older so it's hard to break old habits. I'm well on my way and if you met me in person you wouldn't be talking like this. I am just an open book and not insecure or worried about social shame. I have got some good advice on here so I don't worry about negative people like you. It comes with the territory when you live the way I live.

This was small drama

[–] 5 pts

BRO: Heed my words.

Any time a woman thinks you're cheating, it's because she's cheating. When she says "I trust you, but I don't trust her" run that through the SWTM Standard Woman Translation Matrix: "My ex wants to fuck me".

Run. Run away.

There's a lot of actual woman-hatred here, but there's a difference between hating women and being realistic. You can be equal with a woman; you can not have less power than her. If there is to be an unbalance of power, it must be in the man's favor. If you have more power than your woman, you'll feel protective. If she has more power than you, her eye will wander- doesn't mean she's bad, just how they evolved to get the best men.

If she's allowed to go to her ex's house (or seaworld with her ex) and you aren't, who do you suppose has the power in the relationship?

You have two choices, either set her straight or leave. Seaworld with your kid and your ex is a date, bro. She's going on a date. Do NOT make kids with her. I know it sucks to hear, you probably love her and that fucks with your ability to reason.

I've known you a while, and am quite sure you're a bro. Bros don't let bros make terrible decisions. Go grab a beer with your closest bro and talk it over. If he can bench his body weight or more, 10/10 he'll say what I just said.

poke poke tell him.

Also as says, a woman whose girlfriends tell her that she's right all the time? Not a good sign. Good friends will know when she's being nuts and will break it to her gently in a way that only women are capable of.

[–] 0 pt

She for sure has zero interest in her ex and no time to have done anything else or be looking. The entire thing is pretty complicated. I get what you are saying and know 100% where you are coming from but with out going into detail no way she is cheating...

This post has really been helpful thanks for the input I'm actually gonna reread it and see if I missed any nuggets

[–] 1 pt

Even when you think there's zero chance of cheating, there's still opportunities to do so.

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I'm not saying that she's cheating, I used that as an example of how women tend to mirror their fears/ what they're doing in their accusations. So If she says "YOUR ex wants to get with you, it's likely that HER ex wants to get with her. If she chooses to act on that or not is better for you to say than me... But seaworld is a date.

[–] [deleted] 4 pts

Don't you love women?

Her 3 friends agreed with her I shouldn't be at my ex house ever basically. Now she will go to sea world with her ex and their kid?

What did you say about that to her after she said you can't be at your ex's place? If she thinks you can't be around your ex then clearly she can't be trusted around her ex.

Is that ok?

Of course not! Good luck trying to make that point, though. LOL

[–] 2 pts

Her GF's should have zero input into your life. What is she 19?

[–] [deleted] 2 pts

As soon as the stress a woman brings is greater than the benefit having her around drop her. Considering most women are fat, stupid, can't cook, can't hold a conversation and shit in bed you have your answer.

[–] 1 pt

OH GOD NO!!!!! Sorry for yelling. Gf is emotionally immature and walking away from her is for the best. You got a kid man. That kid IS your world from now until the end of time and if a woman decides she doesn’t want that kid in your life now she will definitely not want them in it when you have kids with her. Take the loss, dump the gf, give your kid hugs and snuggles and know that you will find someone who loves and cares for you both.

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She likes the kid it's the baby momma that might cause proboems.

So you are admitting to allowing women rule you. Nothing else to say. BTW I had a toxic friend when I met my husband. He sat me down and said, "dump her ass, she's a bitch and I don't want her around" I ghosted her right away. He is more important than any bitch or bitches I knew.

[–] -1 pt

I wouldn't go as far as rule me but she for sure has the upper hand. She is white and wants white kids I want white kids and willing to do what ever it takes to make that happen... i will just man up make things so good on the Homestead she will forget about all the bullshit

[–] 1 pt

You were being honest. Just explain that to her and let it go. Don't try to understand the logic of a woman unless you want to drive yourself mad.

[–] [deleted] 2 pts

Women have no "logic".

[–] 2 pts

Shouldve said hormones.

Speaking of which, whats the difference between a hormone and and enzyme?

[–] 1 pt

Dude it is insane. And she has 3 other psychos backing her up. Women are the reason we have the police nanny state. We could learn something from the Muslims.

This is a good genetic white woman or I wouldn't be dealing with this shit.

[–] 3 pts (edited )

You let her go on dates to Seaworld with her ex. She is trash and you don't have the strength to handle her.

Ok, so you're 46 and kind of a loser, big deal, your competition is made up of bigger losers so you're actually above average. Once you build up your skill at handling women, you'll have no trouble finding a younger and hotter girl to bear your children.

When your girlfriend gets pregnant, "your" baby's real father will be her ex. You don't have the status in her eyes to get her pregnant. You have to be high status to get a woman pregnant, and if you let her go on dates then you aren't high status.

Start fresh with a new girl.

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Not sure how I reached loser status.. only thing I feel like I'm losing on is not having white kids. I don't want to deal with a younger girl they are basically retarded. This woman is a good mom is white good genetics tall has a good job and wants white babies. Gonna do it. I could easily go get younger women I am tall white have money debt free soon will be making more money<<< having money does not make one a winner or loser but that seems to be what online idiots think... family kids friends land is value and I'm working on increasing all of those

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Roasties are all mentally unstable. Be gay like Anticlutch, it's much easier.

[–] 0 pt

Lol you’re the best

[–] -1 pt

Oh woogums, you are the exception, of course! 🙋‍♂️

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