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I should rephrase the question asked in the title - what can possibly cause a parent to harbor hatred for their own offspring?

I'm in my mid 30's now. I'm a veteran of the American armed forces. Single father to a boy who lives with me. I understand how money works. I own a single family home in an average neighborhood, and I keep the place looking sharp. I have a disposable income, a modern muscle car, and I spend my days lifting at a good gym.

My father at the same age was more prosperous than I am, but he resented me for existing. Until I was 18, I was unknowingly the product of his choices - scrawny, fearful of the world, too timid to talk to women, and my clothes looked like my family could only afford to shop at Goodwill. I confronted him when I was successful at 30, and he defended himself by saying I had a sense of entitlement.

I believe I have narcissistic abuse syndrome, and he thinks it's funny.

I know I'm not the only millennial with this story, and I want to know why.

I should rephrase the question asked in the title - what can possibly cause a parent to harbor hatred for their own offspring? I'm in my mid 30's now. I'm a veteran of the American armed forces. Single father to a boy who lives with me. I understand how money works. I own a single family home in an average neighborhood, and I keep the place looking sharp. I have a disposable income, a modern muscle car, and I spend my days lifting at a good gym. My father at the same age was more prosperous than I am, but he resented me for existing. Until I was 18, I was unknowingly the product of his choices - scrawny, fearful of the world, too timid to talk to women, and my clothes looked like my family could only afford to shop at Goodwill. I confronted him when I was successful at 30, and he defended himself by saying I had a sense of entitlement. I believe I have *narcissistic abuse syndrome*, and he thinks it's funny. I know I'm not the only millennial with this story, and I want to know why.

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This. Children have a general desire, stronger in some than others, to "leave the nest". Parents often want their children to follow in their footsteps, or have plans for their kids to be more successful than them, and don't like it when the next generation doesn't want to go into the family business or work hard in school. This drove the move to the nuclear family when our society became rich enough to have the option.

There's an old saying that, if you're under thirty and not liberal you have no heart, and if you're over thirty and not conservative you have no brain.

And I don't know why some idiot downvoted you.