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I should rephrase the question asked in the title - what can possibly cause a parent to harbor hatred for their own offspring?

I'm in my mid 30's now. I'm a veteran of the American armed forces. Single father to a boy who lives with me. I understand how money works. I own a single family home in an average neighborhood, and I keep the place looking sharp. I have a disposable income, a modern muscle car, and I spend my days lifting at a good gym.

My father at the same age was more prosperous than I am, but he resented me for existing. Until I was 18, I was unknowingly the product of his choices - scrawny, fearful of the world, too timid to talk to women, and my clothes looked like my family could only afford to shop at Goodwill. I confronted him when I was successful at 30, and he defended himself by saying I had a sense of entitlement.

I believe I have narcissistic abuse syndrome, and he thinks it's funny.

I know I'm not the only millennial with this story, and I want to know why.

I should rephrase the question asked in the title - what can possibly cause a parent to harbor hatred for their own offspring? I'm in my mid 30's now. I'm a veteran of the American armed forces. Single father to a boy who lives with me. I understand how money works. I own a single family home in an average neighborhood, and I keep the place looking sharp. I have a disposable income, a modern muscle car, and I spend my days lifting at a good gym. My father at the same age was more prosperous than I am, but he resented me for existing. Until I was 18, I was unknowingly the product of his choices - scrawny, fearful of the world, too timid to talk to women, and my clothes looked like my family could only afford to shop at Goodwill. I confronted him when I was successful at 30, and he defended himself by saying I had a sense of entitlement. I believe I have *narcissistic abuse syndrome*, and he thinks it's funny. I know I'm not the only millennial with this story, and I want to know why.

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>Until I was 18, I was unknowingly the product of his choices - scrawny, fearful of the world, too timid to talk to women, and my clothes looked like my family could only afford to shop at Goodwill. I confronted him when I was successful at 30, and he defended himself by saying I had a sense of entitlement.

Outch... That hit home, particularly the part about thrift-store clothing. Except it was 15 for me when I finally annoyed/cajoled/bothered them enough to let me get their permission to get an after school job. Bought my own clothing so I didn't have to go to school looking like a hobo, started lifting. That summer I worked every hour they'd let me and lifted 4 days a week. By the beginning of the next year I was a completely different person, some people from school didn't even recognize me at first. (As an aside, newb gainz when you're a teenage hormone factory are the best you'll ever get. It's like being on gear with no side effects)

Teach your son's to lift, and buy them decent looking clothing. People can and do judge books by their cover.